[mk2014]

I am in a relationship with my girlfriend for 10 months and last 3 weeks ago, her brother committed suicide.. Her whole family is very upset about this... And she is also grieving alot.. At first when this happened.. I comforted her alot.. And supported her.. But now since the last 4 days.. She says she doesn't want a relationship with me anymore because she cannot keep it anymore.. Due to the stress her family is having and tells me now I do not want anyone but my family... Her mother likes me and says she's just upset so acts angry.. She acts very rudr these days and I cry alot.. I get desperate to talk with her.. But she still remains rude.. She gets angry when I cried oonce saying that don't do this to me, everything will be okay soon.. I love her alot and I know this is a very bad situation for her right now.. But I am myself in depression over the fact that she wants to leave me.. I try telling her that I am there to support.. But she doesn't listen and says she doesn't want any support.. I don't want to lose her... What should I do...

[kelly8896]

I’m very sorry this is happening to you and so sorry for what she and her family are going through. A death of a loved one is such an awful thing to experience. Everyone deals with loss in different ways, she may just need some time and space to grieve. Let her know that you love her and that you are there to listen if she needs anything. Then let her be for a week and see if the space and time to herself allows her to heal enough to talk to you. Maybe send her a text at the end of the week to say you love her and are thinking of her.

My husbands sister committed suicide and he became very withdrawn. I just let him know I was there if he needed anything. To this day, he doesn't speak about it and never did much. That's his way of dealing with it, not that I agree.

Good luck. My best thoughts are with you.

it sounds like she is grieving badly. she may not be ready for the relationship at this time, so take it one step at a time.

[mk2014]

Thank you I just hope everything turns out well... I just dont want to lose her...

[CosmicRose]

She is doing this now because she needs space, but she very well could want you back once the dust settles and she isn't going through such a hard time. This is actually VERY common for suicide survivors to want out of romantic relationships after such a terrible occurrence. During the grieving process, people either go one of two ways, they cling to their partner, or they push them away entirely.

This is actually part of the grieving process.
She needs space because she can't handle it right now.

So tell her you understand and you'll always be there for her. Stay her friend. That way, in a few weeks or months when she's feeling better, she might want you back.