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Apr 07, 2015, 06:38 PM
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Hello,
Just hoping for some guidance on relationships and bipolar.. My last relationship ended after my ex found out I have bipolar, said he couldn't deal with it.... I was devastated, but try to cope as best I could.... It has left me feeling that no-one will ever accept me with this illness, I used to be very confident and happy being single, but now there is just emptiness.. Has anyone else dealt with a similar problem? |
 I really broken, Ruftin
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Apr 07, 2015, 08:36 PM
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Hello redposy. I'm sorry your boyfriend left you.
 That's very hurtful. I found it difficult to date with my bipolar disorder. I've never told who I was dating I was mentally ill but I did spend most of the relationship fearing they would discover my secret. I've put dating on hold for a few years to get comfortable with myself, my illness and to discover what I really want out of a relationship. The more time I spend doing this the more confident I have felt about myself. Now with my new found confidence I can afford to be choosy about who I will date, or if I even want to date at all. I hope this gives you the strength you need to get comfortable with you and know you deserve what everyone else in this world has in regards to relationships, love, family, future......
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Apr 08, 2015, 06:19 AM
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Just like Ruftin I tend to hide it from the woman I am dating I just put on a happy face and wear it as my "mask" and try hard to convince them and myself I'm OK. I bottle it all up and push it deep inside of my psyche I'm destroying myself in the sake of a relationship that I'll never be truly comfortable in.
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Apr 08, 2015, 07:03 AM
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I've always believed in being honest, and combining that with the core belief that I'm worthless, well.... I tend to spill the beans quickly about all my baggage. I'd rather they know the worst of me and leave before I get attached. Of course, I also then tend to leave out all the positives.
Since officially getting a diagnosis, I've been in one relationship - and yes, I told him quite quickly:it wasn't an issue at all during the relationship. I've also just recently told someone I've been getting to know online from a dating site - I've known him for two weeks tops. His response was to tell me that he thinks he knows more people with bipolar than not, so he's fine. (What a huge relief!) I just figure that I may as well tell them and explain my own behaviours and patterns. If they can't handle it, or at least aren't willing to try, I'd rather know right away. I'm sorry that your ex did that to you 
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"The time has come, the Walrus said, to talk of many things. Of shoes, of ships, of sealing wax, of cabbages, of kings! Of why the sea is boiling hot, of whether pigs have wings..." "I have a problem with low self-esteem. Which is really ridiculous when you consider how amazing I am. |
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Apr 08, 2015, 11:19 AM
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Thanks for the replies....
I guess I am still dealing with the break up, it was tough and I found it difficult... Honesty is the best policy Red Panda, have made it a priority for the future.... I opened up to all my friends about bipolar and the support was amazing... Really going to work on shedding the feeling of loneliness, in the past being single wascnever an issue,so hoping it will get easier... |
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Apr 08, 2015, 04:54 PM
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Yeah... it stings SOOOO much when someone dumps you for something you can't help having. Or when they then break up with you over something that they'd known about you long before you'd ever dated!
I tend to want to have it done and over with ASAP so I can move on as quickly as possible. It will get easier again, just taking longer than you're used to! But it will happen!
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"The time has come, the Walrus said, to talk of many things. Of shoes, of ships, of sealing wax, of cabbages, of kings! Of why the sea is boiling hot, of whether pigs have wings..." "I have a problem with low self-esteem. Which is really ridiculous when you consider how amazing I am. |
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Apr 08, 2015, 07:45 PM
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(((Redposy))) I admire your courage!!! Best wishes!!
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