No friends in college.

Jummy · Apr 19, 2015, 08:33 PM

I am a freshman in college for electrical engineering and I was always told that once I got to college, friends would be so much easier to make. And its true, I had a friend group pretty quickly into the first semester. But I don't know what happened but they just started disliking me and I couldn't find anyone else because everyone else already their own cliques. I even tried joining a few clubs, but even they didn't appreciate my personality. It hurts really bad being all alone. I miss my friends at home who understood me and I could feel so comfortable around. I just get so nostalgic now of the past where I would play video games and have fun with my quirky friends back home. What do I do? I just can't be this alone. It's destroying my motivation which I need for my major.

Keyslost · Apr 19, 2015, 09:22 PM

Do you live in a dorm? Just start knocking on doors (I know it sounds silly but it works

) Otherwise work can be one. Find a video game weekend they might be a lil harder to find but will be worth it since that's where your interest lies.

Jummy · Apr 19, 2015, 09:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Keyslost

Do you live in a dorm? Just start knocking on doors (I know it sounds silly but it works

) Otherwise work can be one. Find a video game weekend they might be a lil harder to find but will be worth it since that's where your interest lies.

Hm I think I know where to go for the video game weekend as you say. I know some people hold a tf2 club. So I'll try it!

Rose76 · Apr 19, 2015, 10:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Jummy

I don't know what happened but they just started disliking me (

That's a tough way to feel. You might want to give that some thought. Maybe you're making an unwarranted assumption. Then again, maybe there's something about your personality or attitude that could use a bit of refurbishing. If you really believe they came to dislike you, you must have some idea what brought that on. How do you even know that they do dislike you? Either something happened, and you had to have been there when it did. Or were you just tending to go in different directions from this group, due to different interests.

It's not true that, after one semester of college, students have formed permanent groups with no openness to admit anyone new. That you think that makes you sound like there is something in your attitude that could stand an adjustment.

I'm sorry you are going though something this hurtful. Don't give up trying to connect. There should be counseling available at student health. Go talk to someone. Maybe that could help you figure out how you are coming across that is this big a turn off to others.

Jummy · Apr 19, 2015, 11:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Rose76

That's a tough way to feel. You might want to give that some thought. Maybe you're making an unwarranted assumption. Then again, maybe there's something about your personality or attitude that could use a bit of refurbishing. If you really believe they came to dislike you, you must have some idea what brought that on. How do you even know that they do dislike you? Either something happened, and you had to have been there when it did. Or were you just tending to go in different directions from this group, due to different interests.

It's not true that, after one semester of college, students have formed permanent groups with no openness to admit anyone new. That you think that makes you sound like there is something in your attitude that could stand an adjustment.

I'm sorry you are going though something this hurtful. Don't give up trying to connect. There should be counseling available at student health. Go talk to someone. Maybe that could help you figure out how you are coming across that is this big a turn off to others.

It probably is my personality. But I can't change it. If I say something that doesn't come naturally to me it's awful. My friends really are only going to be a select group of people. I already know I can't be friends with most people. And I can never really get a relationship either. I've only asked out one person in my life and got rejected. I really never see that working out with who I am. She was just weird like me.

Rose76 · Apr 19, 2015, 11:57 PM

So you only got rejected once when you asked someone for a date. And that tells you to never ask anyone else ever again. That is a weird way to think.

You are putting limitations on yourself. You are saying this is not possible and that is not possible. If you want to decide that all kinds of things are not possible for you, then I guess they won't be.

Jummy · Apr 20, 2015, 12:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Rose76

So you only got rejected once when you asked someone for a date. And that tells you to never ask anyone else ever again. That is a weird way to think.

You are putting limitations on yourself. You are saying this is not possible and that is not possible. If you want to decide that all kinds of things are not possible for you, then I guess they won't be.

I can't even find another girl that is a friend because i can't find any friends in the first place.