[iamanders]

The social world is f*****g difficult. I am very confused about touch. Rsearchers and other people tell us that physical touch is good for us and I agree. How can we use touch in relatationships? How can we know when it is ok to touch another person? We could hug a person (that count as touch). How then do we know when it's ok to hug someone? I sometimes want people to be a little physical with me (but people seem afraid). I mean like a hug or something like that. I am confused. Do you ask people for hugs or do they come natural? Are certain "normal/typical" people afraid of physical touch?
Is physical touch considered as a bit sexual?

[wrigh430]

I completely understand where you are coming from! I am a very physical person myself, yet society seems to keep us in a tactile vacuum. I saw one study that said that cats need 30 min of physical affection daily and cats are the epitome of anti-social, so just imagine how much physical contact a social creature like humans need.

I don't know where everyone got that idea that physical = sexual.

Have you considered getting a pet? They crave physical attention as much as we do and no one looks at you like your crazy when you pet a dog.

There are different kinds of physical touches: nurturing, healing, sensual, sexual... Different touches are best suited for different scenarios with different people. Hugs usually come naturally between close friends, family members and lovers. Sexual touches are reserved for lovers or sexual partners.

I'm not the best person to ask about this, im terrified of being touched. Its such a drawback.

[Apathy123]

I miss having people to hug and hug me.

[Neurotic 2 the bone]

Originally Posted by Apathy123

I miss having people to hug and hug me.

Ditto.

The one person I had to hold and be held by is gone. I'd give anything to hug her just one more time.

[hjames]

I've always thought this is so healthy among Mediterranean cultures like Italians and Greeks. Being a nordic myself, the first non-family hug I got was by a random girl who hugged me at our high school graduation. It rocked my world.

[iamanders]

Originally Posted by NewLyfeForReal

There are different kinds of physical touches: nurturing, healing, sensual, sexual... Different touches are best suited for different scenarios with different people. Hugs usually come naturally between close friends, family members and lovers. Sexual touches are reserved for lovers or sexual partners.

How can a touch be nurturing?

[Frog22]

Originally Posted by iamanders

How can a touch be nurturing?

Hugging a kid if theyve hurt themselves, giving someone a massage to help them go to sleep or if theyre in pain. Is how i would define it anyway lol

Are you wanting to know about touching in general, or in terms of a romantic relationship?

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[avlady]

my husband is greek too and their whole family is always hugging, i had to get used to it at first but i kind of like it now. that means their greetings.

[HelixSogol]

I'd like to give you a heads up and say "Give it a try!" Don't overthink it (it might feel awkward if you do), just give a person a hug when you think they need one, a touch on the shoulder for encouragement... If they dislike it, you will see, but chanses are that they will be grateful. A week ago, when I was feeling really distressed, someone I'd spoken to only 3 times altogether felt that and hugged me, and I realized I'd just needed this kind of contact so much! (Okay, I like in Bulgaria, and he was Greek, so what's socially acceptable changes with the culture, but not so much the way people feel!) It was really great, and I'm not the touchy-feely kind of person. Hugs to you, and best luck making this world a little less cold!