[trashking]

I'm still struggling to be healthy, functioning friends with a person that i trusted too deeply. about four years ago, we were kinda friends, but then he had to move away. he moved away may 2012. i had a couple hang outs with him the week before he moved. we went to the mall, the movies to see the lorax when it came out,and a burrito place called free birds. we then became facebook friends,skype friends. after he moved away, i admit maybe a month later i had feelings for him. he said he did too, we had a sappy,puppy love long distance relationship for a while. then i lost my phone. for two months, silence without a goodbye. when i got it back i apologized so much. it was strained and i think by that time he told me he moved on. he proceeded to play with my feelings like this until ,i'd say sometime after November 2014. we were always off on friends and off on...romantically involved,sort of. it's complicated. i couldn't help "loving" him after all that time, and he "moved on" like 3 times, only to say sometimes he's still "not over me" and is still "dealing with it" and i just hate him. that was a big problem after the two month disappearance. it got rocky like that, and i would have various mixed feelings because he continued to SAY he loved me and make me fall for those lies then do something that had dis-proven it. i called him out on it early this year, January i think. i said something like, "i don't know why you still say stupid **** like that. you're not really going to marry me and have a family with me so stop lying. i know you don't mean it, what's the point of saying it? you'll move on, i'll move on, and it'll be some stupid first love story we remember that we had when we were young and foolish." and he said, no, that i was right, and that maybe i shouldn't have said anything because it's better to be happy then right, but even though that hurt to hear, if i knew he was lying, i still wasn't happy regardless. anyway. we now have a very distant seeming relationship,which sucks because we are perfect friends-or were before the involvement of "romance"- because we were so alike, humor wise and stuff. I just always want to yell at him, asking why we ever got involved. but then i remember i started it. but he could've stopped it before it happened but it's my fault and oh my god, it's just so awful,i hate relationships a lot. i told him everything,basically,which was dumb, but i needed to tell SOMEONE, i had kept things in for so long and this just...really sucks. i still love him, but i'm not "in love". does that make sense to anyone? anyway i just wish i didn't do this kind of stuff to myself. this stupid ordeal with him messed up my already weak relationship/trust skills. ugh..thanks,and sorry.

[Keyslost]

NP Trashking, relationships are tough for everyone esp LD. Lemme know if you are looking for advice I'll only listen if that's all that is needed

[curley]

Originally Posted by trashking

I'm still struggling to be healthy, functioning friends with a person that i trusted too deeply. about four years ago, we were kinda friends, but then he had to move away. he moved away may 2012. i had a couple hang outs with him the week before he moved. we went to the mall, the movies to see the lorax when it came out,and a burrito place called free birds. we then became facebook friends,skype friends. after he moved away, i admit maybe a month later i had feelings for him. he said he did too, we had a sappy,puppy love long distance relationship for a while. then i lost my phone. for two months, silence without a goodbye. when i got it back i apologized so much. it was strained and i think by that time he told me he moved on. he proceeded to play with my feelings like this until ,i'd say sometime after November 2014. we were always off on friends and off on...romantically involved,sort of. it's complicated. i couldn't help "loving" him after all that time, and he "moved on" like 3 times, only to say sometimes he's still "not over me" and is still "dealing with it" and i just hate him. that was a big problem after the two month disappearance. it got rocky like that, and i would have various mixed feelings because he continued to SAY he loved me and make me fall for those lies then do something that had dis-proven it. i called him out on it early this year, January i think. i said something like, "i don't know why you still say stupid **** like that. you're not really going to marry me and have a family with me so stop lying. i know you don't mean it, what's the point of saying it? you'll move on, i'll move on, and it'll be some stupid first love story we remember that we had when we were young and foolish." and he said, no, that i was right, and that maybe i shouldn't have said anything because it's better to be happy then right, but even though that hurt to hear, if i knew he was lying, i still wasn't happy regardless. anyway. we now have a very distant seeming relationship,which sucks because we are perfect friends-or were before the involvement of "romance"- because we were so alike, humor wise and stuff. I just always want to yell at him, asking why we ever got involved. but then i remember i started it. but he could've stopped it before it happened but it's my fault and oh my god, it's just so awful,i hate relationships a lot. i told him everything,basically,which was dumb, but i needed to tell SOMEONE, i had kept things in for so long and this just...really sucks. i still love him, but i'm not "in love". does that make sense to anyone? anyway i just wish i didn't do this kind of stuff to myself. this stupid ordeal with him messed up my already weak relationship/trust skills. ugh..thanks,and sorry.

Hi, Tr. I think the previous posting was right on to say relationships are hard. Sometimes we, say things just to hurt others and that is never a good idea. Sometimes we say things to get a reaction and that never works. I hope you figure things out!