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May 18, 2015, 07:27 PM
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I am currently experiencing problems with communicating effectively with my partner. He is very busy at work and so am I. We do not always get a lot of time together. As far as what he does at work and what I do at work is very little known. I would like for him to become more involved and show a bit more interest in what I do. But I think that this is a two way street. I try to listen and ask him how his day went but more often than not we land up arguing because he is stressed. We run around in circles like this. What do you think might help this situation?
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May 18, 2015, 09:23 PM
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Forget about work and build a life together. He's stressed talking about work because it's stressful. Do something that you only do with him, even if it's watching some tv show. He will be interested in what you do if you're interesting. Kvetching about work is never interesting.
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May 19, 2015, 12:47 AM
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This is tough goodnessgracious! It's great that you show concern for your partner's stress level and seek more communication to try to help - it shows you care about the relationship. Now what to do if he doesn't show to be interested in talking to you about what stresses him out at work...
His decision to open up to you may at least partially depend on whether he sees the problem(s) causing him stress as temporary or permanent. Based on how much you know of his work, do you have an idea of what could be stressing him out and whether it's temporary or permanent? |
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May 19, 2015, 06:39 AM
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Thank you very much for this advice arundelle and NewLyfeForReal! These sound like very good strategies. I will try these and let you know how this goes.
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#5
May 19, 2015, 09:18 AM
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Good luck goodnessgracious. Anytime you need, feel free to come back to PC and post.
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May 19, 2015, 09:29 AM
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yes he may be stressed from work, alot of people are like this. when i was working i never wanted to talk about work outside of it, as it was stressful enough to ruin my day. i would enjoy a conversation that didn't involve work issues.
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May 19, 2015, 02:34 PM
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Have you tried giving him time to unwind when he gets home? My dad use to to always come home mad/grouchy. He told my mom to give him time to unwind. So maybe 30 minutes to an hour then he would be fine. It might be something to try.
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#8
May 19, 2015, 03:21 PM
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Maybe you two need like a vacation...just the two of you. That way you can just stop, relax with each other, and breathe for a while.
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 ~ Kaitlynn ~
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May 19, 2015, 03:24 PM
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May 19, 2015, 05:10 PM
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Thank you Avlady I feel relieved that I am not the only one to experience this!
Good point Seeyalater I am going to try that and let you know how it goes. Yes I will try leave work at work s4ndm4n - this sounds like a sensible strategy. |
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