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Jun 12, 2015, 01:44 PM
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I gave my mom $1000 to hold for me and she says she doesn't have it. Also, I have given her $200 to hold and she deposited in her checking account "to pay a couple bills". She has her own money to pay bills. Then, she always asks me to buy her stuff without giving me the money for it. I have spent another $1000 on her so far this month. So that is, $2200. Why is she so sneaky when it comes to money?
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Jun 12, 2015, 03:19 PM
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You make a lot of money the way it sounds. 2200 a month to spend on mom? Wow. Not my business but really I have nice income and now work two jobs no way I have that much to spend on anyone! And why is she holding your money, money is safer in the bank
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Jun 12, 2015, 04:42 PM
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Sounds like this has been an on-going problem with your mom. You should definitely stop having your mom hold on to your money. Can you put it in your bank account yourself? My guess is she is sneaky with money because she has such easy access to yours.
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Jun 12, 2015, 04:56 PM
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if she has her own money why is she boworring from you anyway? i would keep your money in a bank account from now on.
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Jun 12, 2015, 05:13 PM
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Quit giving your mom access to your money!
I know it's not that easy, but ... It's the only sure fire way to stop her from taking advantage of you this way! 
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Jun 12, 2015, 09:23 PM
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Jun 12, 2015, 10:32 PM
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Really? Where do you get the money from?
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Jun 12, 2015, 10:41 PM
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Jun 12, 2015, 10:54 PM
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I am happier when I have jingle too!!! I would be much more appreciative than your mom is if you gave your jingle to me!!! (Just kidding)You should tell your mom no to funds unless your living with her. Even then, rent and no more. Guilt tripping your adult child is a no-no.
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Jun 12, 2015, 11:19 PM
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The real question is: "Why are you making it so easy for her to exploit you?" I don't see where your mother is all that sneaky. She doesn't have to be to take advantage of you.
Put your extra money that you don't need right away in a bank account. It will be there when you want it. Consider the money that your mother took the price you paid for a valuable lesson: Your mom is not trustworthy - now you know. This goes to her basic character. She won't change. Who knows why she's that way? I'm sure an analysis of her life, especially her childhood, would yield some idea of the reason. Make that analysis, if you like. But it really doesn't matter that much at this stage of her life. She is as she is. Don't enable this behavior. That will just make you grow bitter toward her. |
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Jun 12, 2015, 11:28 PM
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Are you, perhaps, too young to open a bank account on your own? If so, find a hiding place in your room.
Paying your mom to be nice to you is a bad habit to get into. The price will keep going up. Her yelling at you won't kill you. I know it's a drag, but you can learn to tune it out. If she's unreasonable, then let that be the motivation for you to get emancipated soon as you can and live independent of her. |
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Jun 13, 2015, 02:33 AM
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Joshua mommy isn't too young to have an account she was married and has a son
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Jun 13, 2015, 04:24 AM
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As far as her yelling at you when you don't ... That's just downright abuse! I'd keep my money for myself and put as much distance between me and this toxic woman as possible! 
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Jun 13, 2015, 11:19 AM
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Jun 13, 2015, 11:47 AM
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There are banks to hold your money, safely.
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Jun 13, 2015, 02:16 PM
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Jun 13, 2015, 08:04 PM
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Could you explain why you can't deposit the money in the bank?
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Jun 14, 2015, 12:50 AM
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If you and your son are living with your mom, then take a look at how your mom and you split household finances. Agree on something and consider it a contract. Give her the exact amount you agree on. If you have extra money, put it anywhere but not into her hand. You need to build a rainy day fund for yourself and your son. Anything can happen at any time.
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Jun 14, 2015, 01:21 AM
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Sounds more like "I keep giving my mom my money" instead of "my mom keeps taking my money"
You are the one with the power and the problem here, your mom's greed is just a byproduct, and her greed will grow and intensify, because you make it so easy for her to act on her greed. Give her what you must and no more. Simple. Repeatedly giving her money "to hold" is just asking for trouble, its like begging her to use it... Bank or hide the rest.
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Jun 14, 2015, 04:41 AM
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Sorry. I thought you were. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Jun 14, 2015, 01:42 PM
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Jun 14, 2015, 02:35 PM
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If you are ever in the hospital again, be aware that every hospital has a safe for storing money, jewelry, etc. of patients.
You really need to talk to a social worker about your relationship with your mother. It sounds like she is using you being sick as a reason to exploit you. That is illegal. If you are in the hospital again, explain all this to a social worker. |
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Jun 14, 2015, 08:35 PM
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Is there any other trusted person you can trust that can take care of business when you are hospitalized?
Btw my grandma used to steal my money. Some relatives do that unfortunately Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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