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Jul 07, 2015, 02:43 PM
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How do you deal with a family who won't let you talk to someone about their flaws and faults? Yes, I can be a bit relentless and talkative, but when I'm pointing out something my brother is doing wrong or needs to stop, he starts screaming and sometimes even beats me in fustration (He's 11). My mom and my dad always tell me to shut up, and I'm trying to say that I'm teaching him something, but they think I'm annoying. I can understand because I get irritated easily (sensitivity to noises), but this is one of the times I'm trying to help.
A while ago, I was saying something about this game I can't download into his computer because his browser is new, then my brother screams at me in mid-sentence. I try to explain, but he kept telling me to shut up. I didn't want him to think that he would win if I stayed quiet, so I kept telling he did was wrong, then he hit me and screamed some more. My mom told me to shut up. |
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#2
Jul 07, 2015, 02:59 PM
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He is a child and therefore will be childish, he will grow up eventually.
You can support and look after him, but you cannot make him what he is not. |
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Jul 07, 2015, 03:08 PM
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Jul 07, 2015, 03:16 PM
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No reason to be sorry, your intentions are good, but it is not your fault if your brother does not always respond as you might wish. When he is older I expect he will appreciate your support and care.
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Jul 07, 2015, 04:35 PM
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I think it's really great that you don't want your brother to feel frustrated or angry.
Children aren't just small adults. They don't process or handle things the same way AND how they do so changes all the time as they age; so what works now, might not work in a year or 2. They should come with instruction manuals! Thanks for the game example. So, instead of something like "hey sis, can you load this game on my computer?" and "no it won't work because..." Another approach might have been to try to walk him through it. Something like... "What game?" "When did that come out" "huh, how old is the computer/what browser do you use?" "did you check if they're compatible, can they work together?" If he doesn't know what that means, how to check... then "(lets) look at the back, there's usually a spot where they list what it works with"... |
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Jul 08, 2015, 11:57 AM
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He physically attacks you when he doesn't get his way????
If my little brother had tried that at his age I would've kicked his a.s.s... He's way too old for tantrums, so IMO just seems spoilt and disrespectful. Me? I wouldn't even bother anymore, I would just leave him to figure shyt out on his own and throw his violent tantrums solo. Which is saying ALOT because I have an 11 year old daughter.
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