I don't know if this is in the right forum or not, so if it's wrong, please feel free to move it.

Here's the story. A couple of months ago I found out my brother had been cheating on his wife. I'm not sure how to feel about this. The thing is, my brother's wife is pretty lazy. She doesn't work, she doesn't study, she doesn't cook, clean, feed the dogs, wash clothes...nothing. My brother goes to work, comes home, and has to do all of the above. I'm angry at him for not voicing that he was unhappy and cheating on her, but I'm also angry at her for putting him in the position where he had to turn to another person for comfort.

I don't know what I'm asking for here, but I don't know how to feel about this whole situation. Any advice/thoughts?

[Werewoman]

It would seem your brother has major issues that HE needs to deal with. I'm guessing his wife's issues are overwhelming. Your description of her seems to me it's much more than simple laziness, but a deep and profound state of depression. I think a marriage or family counselor would be a good start, and then maybe it could lead to solutions for him besides cheating.

Unfortunately there's not anything you can do about it except be there for him if he wants someone to talk to.

My brother's wife died last year and it kills me that I can't take his pain away. I just make sure to answer all of his phone calls and texts, even if they come at 3:00 am.