[CosmicRose]

I've been feeling a bit rejected this year. I've been looking for a job for about 3-4 months now and I keep not getting hired. For someone with anxiety, even going to an interview is a huge ordeal, but I do it, and still manage to not get the job. I also have been rejected romantically from I think at least two men that I was interested in, and although this may sound egotistical, I'm not used to being rejected romantically at all. I'm usually the one getting hit on randomly in the mall, in the grocery store, minding my own business, I purposely wear sunglasses just so people wont assume I'm hitting on them if I lock eyes with someone because that's how often I get approached. So being rejected by two people recently really stunned my self confidence and made me do some inner digging as to why that might have occurred.

Professionally, I've always felt intelligent and capable, but being rejected from jobs every week is making me question my aptitude - perhaps they're seeing something in me that I'm not, something I'm lacking? Something wrong with my personality?

I hate to just assume something is wrong with me because of a few rejections, but its difficult not to come to that conclusion.

Originally Posted by CosmicRose

I've been feeling a bit rejected this year. I've been looking for a job for about 3-4 months now and I keep not getting hired. For someone with anxiety, even going to an interview is a huge ordeal, but I do it, and still manage to not get the job. I also have been rejected romantically from I think at least two men that I was interested in, and although this may sound egotistical, I'm not used to being rejected romantically at all. I'm usually the one getting hit on randomly in the mall, in the grocery store, minding my own business, I purposely wear sunglasses just so people wont assume I'm hitting on them if I lock eyes with someone because that's how often I get approached. So being rejected by two people recently really stunned my self confidence and made me do some inner digging as to why that might have occurred.

Professionally, I've always felt intelligent and capable, but being rejected from jobs every week is making me question my aptitude - perhaps they're seeing something in me that I'm not, something I'm lacking? Something wrong with my personality?

I hate to just assume something is wrong with me because of a few rejections, but its difficult not to come to that conclusion.

I'm in a similar boat with the job rejections, it's tough keeping motivation going when you don't get the result you want. I also suffer with nerves in the interview situation, in fact I've had it fed back to me by interviewers. Do you ask for feedback from your interviews? That might give you some pointers to work on.

As for the more personal rejections, maybe that's hitting you harder because of your job situation? I doubt there's anything wrong with you - as you say yourself you're just not used to it, lol some of us have more experience of that.

Chin up, better times around the corner - and as someone very wise on here once said to me "Every no is a step closer to a yes".

Good luck!

[Bill3]

[divine1966]

What type of job are you looking for? Do you have training or degree in the field you are looking for? I know economy is bad

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Originally Posted by CosmicRose

Professionally, I've always felt intelligent and capable, but being rejected from jobs every week is making me question my aptitude - perhaps they're seeing something in me that I'm not, something I'm lacking? Something wrong with my personality?

I hate to just assume something is wrong with me because of a few rejections, but its difficult not to come to that conclusion.

Oh no! I just started going cold when I read that.

Please, whatever you do, do not begin questioning yourself and start looking for "What's wrong with me?" just keep believing in yourself and realize the rejections just mean you're being set up for something better and it will take a little time.

Please don't go down that road I did. There is nothing wrong with you. Things just didn't line up just yet.

Believe me, you don't want to go there!

Professionally, I've always felt intelligent and capable, but being rejected from jobs every week is making me question my aptitude - perhaps they're seeing something in me that I'm not, something I'm lacking? Something wrong with my personality?

Do you have the option after any of the interviews to talk with one of the interviewers for feedback on why you didn't get hired?

Interviewers won't always do that, but if there's a particular person that you interview with that you feel likes you, you might try contacting them directly and ask if they can tell you anything.

I did that once after an interview. The guy was very nice and told me what the thinking and conclusions of the interviewers were.

I am on disability now, but I haven't always been. I remember interviewing for a big job change when I was in my late 20s. My conclusion was that the longer you work, the more difficult it becomes to find a place where you'll be a good fit.

I ran into things interviewing at that age that never occurred when I was younger. Things like someone just slightly senior to me acting obviously competitive towards me during the interview or seeing that the "company culture" that I came from was just not a good fit in another place.

If you've done well in jobs in the past, there's no reason to think that there's anything wrong with your personality. Your personality may not fit in at a place you interview at, but that's totally different.

It would be good to find out if there's some skill the interviewers are looking for that you don't have or if they think you're under- or over-qualified for the positions you're interviewing for.

Even if not getting an offer is really tough, you're getting some good interviewing experience. (I imagine you're tired of people telling you that.)

I also have been rejected romantically from I think at least two men that I was interested in, and although this may sound egotistical, I'm not used to being rejected romantically at all.

Been there, went through that! During the first few years after college. It doesn't sound like you mean it in an egotistical way. Learning to deal with romantic rejection is a learned skill. It's not a fun one to learn, either.

It's also frustrating in that it's not very often you can ask "why?" and get a straightforward answer.

When I went through it, I tried to tell myself that it would be pretty fair if, when dating someone didn't progress into a relationship, I did the rejecting 50% of the time and was the rejectee 50% of the time. That made me feel better.

I think it might be more valuable to spend your time thinking about what you really want out of a relationship and what kind of person you are looking for than to try to figure out why the last couple of guys haven't worked out.

Okay, that's my two bitcoins worth.

[CosmicRose]

Originally Posted by divine1966

What type of job are you looking for? Do you have training or degree in the field you are looking for? I know economy is bad

I don't have a college degree but I do have administrative and customer service experience, both paid and volunteer. I've been applying to mainly admin assistant jobs, county office jobs, records technician jobs, and anything related to those positions in fields such as healthcare, law enforcement and independent businesses. I've only been on a few interviews, not many, but I am sending out my resume and applications on a daily basis.