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Location: Tampa, Florida
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Jul 16, 2015 at 12:30 PM
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Hey good people.
So, I'm 24 years old, and I've been in 3 serious relationships in my life since college. And they’ve all essentially followed the same trajectory.
I really don’t know why step 4 happens though. Maybe I’m scared of opening up to other people and letting them see that my layers below the surface that aren’t too pretty. Maybe I’m too restless and I know I won’t have as many experiences with other people if I have the responsibilities of being with the same person. Maybe I just get annoyed by people easily. It’s probably all of those things. When I’m having casual sex and friend with benefits, and I don’t have the responsibilities of a monogamous relationship, I’m always a lot happier. Maybe that’s just what I’m supposed to be doing? I keep telling myself I’m eventually going to get married and have kids but maybe that’s not the life for me and I’m just not meant for serious relationships. Thoughts? Advice? __________________ 
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Poohbah
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Jul 16, 2015 at 12:37 PM
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No, not everyone is meant for a serious relationship.
Some people prefer celibacy, for various possible reasons. Some people prefer only casual sex but no emotional intimacy. What matters is the quality of your character. Are you honest with yourself? Are you honest with others? Are you responsible not to spread diseases everywhere? Are you responsible not to have an unwanted pregnancy? Do you respect your partners and always tell them upfront what to expect? Those are the things that matter. |
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Jul 16, 2015 at 01:03 PM
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At 24 you just haven't met the right one. When you meet the right one step 4 won't happen.
You are very young. At 24 that many relationships.,,,are you rushing into them? I look at other young people. My daughter had one serious relationship at your age, she then met her husband and they are now happly married at 27. My nephew is 25 and is in his first serious relationship which started at 24. These are not socially awkward losers but very social and successful professionals. And my nephew is gorgeous Lol what I am trying to say it might be a good idea to take you'd relationships slow. Quantity doesn't grow into quality. That might be the reason you get all kind of problems with these ladies is that you don't really know them well Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Jul 16, 2015 at 01:06 PM
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So I guess I'm doing okay then haha. __________________
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Jul 16, 2015 at 01:07 PM
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Maybe I just need to meet "that special someone" but I'm often wondering if that person even exists. __________________
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Jul 16, 2015 at 02:47 PM
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Man I am almost 50 and didn't give up yet . Lol At 24 you should just enjoy your life and be safe. Sure she exists Do make a list of important qualities and red flags and proceed with caution next time you meet a girl Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Jul 16, 2015 at 04:27 PM
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Maybe I just need to find a deeper emotional connection that I haven't found yet. __________________
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Grand Poohbah
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Jul 16, 2015 at 04:55 PM
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Perhaps you need to think about what you really want and why. There is no rush after all at 24 you have plenty of time.
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Jul 16, 2015 at 09:12 PM
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I wonder if seeing a therapist might help to figure out what's going on. I waited until almost 50 to figure out what's my pattern of relationships
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Jul 17, 2015 at 07:21 AM
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I agree with Divine. If seeing a therapist is possible for you, I think that you could benefit from it. It seems like you're trying to figure out what kind of emotional style you have.
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Jul 17, 2015 at 08:46 AM
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Yeah, I've seen a therapist but never really divulged too much about my relationship preferences. It would probably be a good idea if I went back and tried that.
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Mar 24, 2024 at 08:26 AM
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I’ve heard that we tend to get angry at our loved for no reason when we have repressed anger. Could be at our parents.
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Mar 24, 2024 at 09:52 AM
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Mar 24, 2024 at 10:50 AM
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Oh didn’t see
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