[jfknt]

I had a girlfriend for three years from age 17 to 20. I hung out with her a couple of times in the few years proceeding, but I haven't spoken to her in many years and neither have my friends.

15 years later, I found out yesterday that she invited two of my close friends (that my ex knew back then through me) and their wives to breakfast to "catch up".

Am I the only one that finds this strange?

[healingme4me]

It is 15 years later. Have they stayed in touch? Hard to classify as strange behavior, if these are friends from youth.

[divine1966]

Why is this strange?

I periodically catch up with old friends but sometimes it is someone i haven't spoken for years.

The reason she perhaps didn't invite you is that you two have history, I stay in touch with old boyfriends but not high school one as we have nothing in common and he pursued me over the years which was annoying

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[jfknt]

Originally Posted by healingme4me

It is 15 years later. Have they stayed in touch? Hard to classify as strange behavior, if these are friends from youth.

Most definitely not, my friends haven't spoken to her for as long as me, if not longer.

It was completely out of the blue, that's what I find perplexing.

[jfknt]

Originally Posted by divine1966

Why is this strange?

I periodically catch up with old friends but sometimes it is someone i haven't spoken for years.

The reason she perhaps didn't invite you is that you two have history, I stay in touch with old boyfriends but not high school one as we have nothing in common and he pursued me over the years which was annoying

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The thing is, in the recent past, she has invited me to meet up but I declined as I was not interested.

I don't have an issue with old friends catching up, that's perfectly normal. But she wasn't close with my friends 15 years ago (only friends with them 'cause we were in a relationship), so why try to spark a friendship now out of the blue?

That's what I find strange.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by jfknt

The thing is, in the recent past, she has invited me to meet up but I declined as I was not interested.


I don't have an issue with old friends catching up, that's perfectly normal. But she wasn't close with my friends 15 years ago (only friends with them 'cause we were in a relationship), so why try to spark a friendship now out of the blue?


That's what I find strange.

Honestly why do you care? My high school boyfriend of ages 16 to 20 can do whatever he wants!. One of my high school girlfriends always keeps in touch with old classmates and I only talk to a few. Everyone is different. There is no point to figure out what people do and why

So she invites you and you decline but then it concerns you she invites others. ? Why do you even want to know if it is strange or why is it even in your thoughts?

Just puzzled why activities of old girlfriend from 15 years ago are even on your radar

If I felt this way I'd be more willing to explore why I feel this way?

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[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by jfknt

Most definitely not, my friends haven't spoken to her for as long as me, if not longer.

It was completely out of the blue, that's what I find perplexing.

If I started contacting my hsbf(ages 16-22)'s college friends, out of the blue, it would be out of character. In hs we were in the same circles with a few various friends that weren't in the same circle.
15 years out of hs is a time, that I've discovered many want to regain contact, better understand themselves, etc. Sometimes prepping for the 20th reunion.

Unless there's skeletons that may come out that are concerning, not certain why this even came to your attention?