Sibling relationship

Do you have a brother or a sister? If you do, when you "reflect" or evaluate your relationship, can you honestly say you have a GOOD relationship with them? Or do you just co-exsist? To get an idea where I am coming from, I have three (3) brothers, no sisters, and I do not have any kind of relationship with them. And yet, my parents want us to be there for one another (of course, they would want that for their kids), but it is hard. My eldest brother is ten (10) years older than I am, and he is the "authoritative" type. He is the type that you can't answer back, and yet keeps on waiting for an answer. The moment you answer him and he does not like your answer or the way you answer, he would get mad and freak out mad. For my second brother, well, we used to be close. I could tell him anything, and I would listen to what he says and the pieces of advice he would give. But, that changed when he read my personal diary where I put all my emotions and he used it against me, trying to innocently make as if he just knows. After that, I couldn't trust him back again. As for my third brother, well he was never around. He had drama club during high school, would come home late during college, plus we would always fight when we were younger. Though I think that part will always be sibling rivalry.

When I would be around my friends with siblings, I get envious because they have a good relationship. Comparing myself and to my cousins how they could go out and watch a movie with just them, go out of town with just them, I feel so much envy wishing I had that kind of relationship with my brothers. And yet, my two eldest brothers (which are already married and have kids) "expect" me to take care of their kids when they want to do something like a date or movie or out of town. Without a thank you from my own brothers, but always from my sisters in law. They got too used to me being here all the time that they could leave the kids and move on with their lives. But, when I do try to make a life for my own, they tend to bring me down (even my parents btw) and they do not want me to leave the family.

I ask my question once again: can you honestly say upon evaluating your sibling relations that you do have a good relationship with your siblings?

I have one brother and we are one year apart in age. I can say that our relationship is good but isn't as close as we'd both like.

We evaluate our relationship about once a year and agree to making more effort on being closer but then we often fall into same hole of not talking to each other much beyond superficial small talk. We are there for each other in times of need but when crisis is over it slows down

Both my brother and I talked about lack of depth in our relationship with our parents. It is all superficial. We try to raise our own kids differently and do make an effort to be close to each other even though it's not always working the way we'd like

I love my brother tremendously though and vice versa. Sometimes we have to accept that things are the way they are. Accept what is rather than trying to change it. But it is important to try to improve

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There's a few of us, and its a mash up of relationships...


The eldest three are/were more than 10 years my senior. And while my brother was also quite authoritarian, he and I were close since I was born. He was the first sibling I bonded with, growing up and into my teens I talked to him about anything and everything.

It killed a part of me when he died.


The second eldest is a sister, our relationship has waxed and waned over the years as she's forged a family of her own and tried to adapt to my different phases of growth. We have a good relationship though, we talk about everything, have girls nights, go for coffee and geez she can talk for over an hour on the darn phone!


Then there's another older sister, sibling rivalry growing up, but as adults we came to realize we have alot in common and have made a concerted effort to become friends. We have a very good relationship now, even got matching tattoos for my bday.


Then there's a brother just before me, I hardly ever mention him because I have cut all ties with him. He's toxic


Last but not least my younger brother by 6 years. I couldn't stand him when we were children and now he's my best friend.


So yes, there are definitive relationships between my siblings and I.