[Yoyogirl]

Hey

My cousin is soon to be 18 years of age in June and I am gonna be 29 and o really not sure if I should go to her party. In the past I have been treated like a five year old and felt really left out, my parents and her family (the older adults of 57) are considering having their own do and I am left alone yet again or treated like a five year old. Please help me I can't decide where to go

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[healingme4me]

Suppose I'd expect being treated younger with an older crowd, but a younger crowd? Why bother?

[CANDC]

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[kaliope]

hi yoyogirl
i can understand feeling left out due to the age gaps; however, the party is to celebrate your cousin. If you dont have a relationship with your cousin to be able to be there and focus on her day, then there really isnt a reason to go. just send along a card and gift with your parents. welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome

[avlady]

i agree with kaliope

[Trippin2.0]

So if I understand correctly, your choices are party with the 18 year olds, celebrate invisibly with the older crowd or remain alone?


I see why the last two options suck, but what wrong with the first?


I'll be 31 in a few short months and celebrated my niece's 18th with her 2 weeks ago.


Then again, I wasn't the only one in my age group there, the mid twenties - thirties, were keeping an eye on things while having a blast ourselves. I would've preferred to be home before 4am though, because I had work the next day.

[Ruftin]

Hello and welcome to Psych Central Yoyogirl!!! It's nice to meet you. You have joined a community of warm and caring members who will want to offer you support and advice. Yours is welcome as well.

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Is there anyway you could go to the party, make an appearance and then leave early or like someone here already posted send a card and gift with your parents? I used to force myself to go to gatherings only to find out it wasn't worth the anxiety and stress it caused me. Perhaps explain to your cousin you're sorry but you just can't make it.

I look forward to seeing you around!!!

[Yoyogirl]

I think I am gonna go seeing as I am closer to eighteen than 57

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[Yoyogirl]

Hey party went well it was joint and it was absolutely fantastic brought back lots of happy and sad memories and felt triggered but got totally pissed and then really enjoyed it

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[~Christina]

Ahhh thanks for the update. Im glad you did enjoy it

[Yoyogirl]

Thanks to the wonderful booze of cider, without the booze and going crazy with the food I would of sat down with cuppa tea and played games on my iPhone or not gone to pass the time

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