[pnw1]

Hi,

I have some questions about a relationship that is developing, I am 40 and met a nice, 60 yr old woman. I do not know what to except! I can tell we are attracted to each other as she flirted with me for 30 minutes the other day when we met, she was looking at me in a very sexual manner. I am also very attracted to her and her personality. We are both single...

We are going on our first date today and am wondering if anyone has had 20 yrs difference in a relationship? Should I just go with it and see what happens? If it is just a fun relationship, so all the better, right? Anything I should know about being with an older woman? I like her and want to make sure I know what I am getting into....

Thanks!

[Carebear85]

My partner is 14 years older than me. I have tried to ignore other peoples negatively as I am happy and thats all that matters!

Ask yourself - does this make me happy? I think that is all you should focus on, because at the end of the day you are all that matters! Good luck!!

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[A Red Panda]

I cannot speak from any experience on this topic.

But wouldn't it be best to talk about it with her? What she's looking for?

You're both adults. If you're happy with each other, then that's great and who cares about the age difference? The sort of things to consider are the differences between being retired and working full time, and health/aging issues that may crop up. Those might cause stress down the road. But again, talking about those sorts of things can show up after a bit of time together.

[Sesiley]

The age difference doesn't always matter. Maybe when your 12 and she's 20. You are both adults. I'm sure there are a lot of things that you sold share with each other despite the age difference. It's just a number

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[kindachaotic]

Have a cousin married to man who's 34 & she's 58.
They started dating when he was 21or22.
Dated for a few yrs, lived together a few yrs, been married for 6or7 yrs now.
They seem very happy but I do wonder about the aging, her older yrs ect.
They obviously have had no interest in adopting.
She has 2 grown daughters ages 26 & 30.
So it can be done & heck with what people think.

[ManOfConstantSorrow]

I wonder if anyone would comment if it were the other way about 60yr od geezer and 40 yr old woman?

Originally Posted by ManOfConstantSorrow

I wonder if anyone would comment if it were the other way about 60yr od geezer and 40 yr old woman?

Seriously? You consider 60-years-old a geezer? You must be really young.

[ManOfConstantSorrow]

Originally Posted by lolagrace

Seriously? You consider 60-years-old a geezer? You must be really young.

Thanks for this. In English 'geezer' is A guy, a bloke, a person in general. The equivalent of "dude" perhaps.

But in the American dialect it is: An old man, particularly one who is either cranky or eccentric. Rather derogatory term.

Source: Urban Dictionary: geezer

I'm sure someone would! Maybe "why is he going out with such an old woman when there are so many 25-year-olds around?"

If two people are happy together and over 18 then they have every right in the world to be together regardless of what society thinks.

While I could see many men being critical and judging because it's generally more acceptable for older men to be with younger women rather than the other way around, who cares what other people think as long as you both are happy, yes?

[divine1966]

Personally I am not interested in 30 year old guys and prefer men closer to my age. Well am not interested in 70 year olds either. But that's me. If you two like it then who cares

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[Vapexer]

you're both grown. It you make eachother happy. thats all that matters

[Lauliza]

Originally Posted by ManOfConstantSorrow

I wonder if anyone would comment if it were the other way about 60yr od geezer and 40 yr old woman?

I think that's a good point. It's pretty accepted that older men often want to date younger women. I imagine older women want the younger guys too by there is more discrimination against them. I was separated when I was 38 until 42 and dated for a while. It had been so long that it was a surprise to find how much contact I received from men in their 60's as opposed to men my own age. Apparently the 60 year old "geezers" rarely are interested in women their own age.

So I think its great that the OP is attracted to and interested in dating an older woman. Everyone has their own opinion on age differences but it doesn't matter since you two are the only ones involved. Why not just go out, have fun and see what happens?

[Carebear85]

Here here. Stop worrying and enjoy the moment and each other, life is to short to waste your time worrying about stuff that in the long run is absolutely meaningless. Consuming yourself in it will only mean that you miss the important things that are right in front of your face! Just to what makes YOU happy!! Good luck ️

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[kelly8896]

Go for it! My mom is 74, my step dad is 54. They have been married 23 years. Started dating when he was 22 and she was 42. They adore each other. Of course all relationships take work and I'm sure there are instances of arguments, but they respect each other and show love and attention to each other always.

I don't believe age should matter. My dad keeps her young. Of course she has slowed down, but he's aged a little too. lol

Good luck and don't miss out on a wonderful person and opportunity to enjoy some happiness!