Co Worker asked me do I wanna help her move?

JustBryan12345 · Aug 17, 2015 at 03:04 AM

So I had a co worker asked me if i wanted it help her move. Me and this girl rarely talk. And I'm sure she has plenty of guy friends to help her. I know she's a single mother. But does it the question mean anything or am I just over analyzing as always? She's actually really pretty. And nice too.

Bill3 · Aug 17, 2015 at 03:13 AM

It means that you have an opportunity to make a good impression on her. How interested are you in taking advantage of this opportunity?

JustBryan12345 · Aug 17, 2015 at 03:31 AM

Well we hardly see each other. I work on the floor while she works in the wireless department.(walmart) I only see her if they want more people to come and help zone(which is why she was tere helping us zone. Straightening up the items.) I sometimes go to wireless to check out some stuff. I'm very interested....buuuuut....there's a problem....that was like months ago....just started thinking about it while watching how I met your mother episode(don't judge me lol)

Bill3 · Aug 17, 2015 at 04:50 AM

Not judging, just want to understand. I think you are saying that she asked you to help months ago but it came to mind now. But if you are interested now...why don't you ask her out now, or for coffee?

avlady · Aug 17, 2015 at 04:58 AM

i say take the chance all that could happen is either a good or bad result. either way you'll know you tried

JustBryan12345 · Aug 17, 2015 at 04:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Bill3

Not judging, just want to understand. I think you are saying that she asked you to help months ago but it came to mind now. But if you are interested now...why don't you ask her out now, or for coffee?

I just don't wanna get the wrong signs from her. And feel like a fool.

Bill3 · Aug 17, 2015 at 04:10 PM

You are worried that she will say no, and then you will feel like a fool.

ManOfConstantSorrow · Aug 17, 2015 at 04:13 PM

We are all fools around women - you probably blew your chances when you did not help her move, but who can say, women are very strange.

Rose76 · Aug 17, 2015 at 05:48 PM

I think it (the question) means she's got a lot of nerve. Helping someone to move is one of the biggest favors one person can do another. Nobody likes moving or helping other people to move. This is a favor people do for close relatives and for good friends. I'll bet this gal does not have a bunch of guy friends . . . at least not who like her well enough to want to start lugging furniture around for her.

She could hire movers, but she'ld rather get free labor out of you. She must think you're a pretty nice guy to even ask this of you. Still, I think it's nervy to ask a big personal favor of someone she hasn't really struck up a friendship with. If she can get you to do this, then she'll be pestering you the next time she needs some muscle for another reason. You'll end up feeing used.

lizardlady · Aug 17, 2015 at 08:09 PM

I wondered right off the bat if you own a truck. I have a pick-up. It's amazing the number of people who think I would be willing to help them move because I have a truck.

My second thought was along the line of what Rose said. She's looking for some free muscle. We (women) might be strange, but most of us are not ballsy enough to ask a guy we hardly know to help us move. I seriously doubt it was her way of seeing if you were interested in dating.

Harmacy · Aug 18, 2015 at 10:12 PM

I'd say keep it simple.

She's asked you to help her move. If it's something you don't mind doing then go along and help her move purely because it's a nice thing to do. It will help her and it may lead to a nice chat and getting to know her more. Or not. Don't worry either way.

The very fact that you agree and turn up will show you're a friendly reliable guy. Worst case scenario is she's using you purely to help her move but then that is precisely what she's said so it's not like she's got a hidden agenda or anything

. So it's a no lose situation as far as I can see. As long as you go into it without any expectations then you'll be fine.

ManOfConstantSorrow · Aug 21, 2015 at 03:14 PM

Gotta give some to get some, or a Nigerian girlfriend used to say 'hand come, hand go'.

crosstobear · Aug 26, 2015 at 07:54 AM

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Originally Posted by JustBryan12345

So I had a co worker asked me if i wanted it help her move. Me and this girl rarely talk. And I'm sure she has plenty of guy friends to help her. I know she's a single mother. But does it the question mean anything or am I just over analyzing as always? She's actually really pretty. And nice too.

Means nothing really, she may have not had any available guy friends at the time. Bill's right, use this opportunity to make a good quick impression on her. But remember, don't **** where you eat.

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JustBryan12345 Member Member Since Jul 2014 Location: Orlando Posts: 46 9	Aug 17, 2015 at 03:04 AM #1 So I had a co worker asked me if i wanted it help her move. Me and this girl rarely talk. And I'm sure she has plenty of guy friends to help her. I know she's a single mother. But does it the question mean anything or am I just over analyzing as always? She's actually really pretty. And nice too.
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Bill3 Legendary Member Since Mar 2009 Location: USA Posts: 10,924 15 24.1k hugs given	Aug 17, 2015 at 03:13 AM #2 It means that you have an opportunity to make a good impression on her. How interested are you in taking advantage of this opportunity?
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Bill3 Legendary Member Since Mar 2009 Location: USA Posts: 10,924 15 24.1k hugs given	Aug 17, 2015 at 04:50 AM #4 Not judging, just want to understand. I think you are saying that she asked you to help months ago but it came to mind now. But if you are interested now...why don't you ask her out now, or for coffee?
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avlady Wise Elder Community Liaison Member Since Jan 2013 Location: angola ny Posts: 9,786 (SuperPoster!) 11 28.8k hugs given	Aug 17, 2015 at 04:58 AM #5 i say take the chance all that could happen is either a good or bad result. either way you'll know you tried
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Bill3 Legendary Member Since Mar 2009 Location: USA Posts: 10,924 15 24.1k hugs given	Aug 17, 2015 at 04:10 PM #7 You are worried that she will say no, and then you will feel like a fool.
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ManOfConstantSorrow Grand Poohbah Member Since Jul 2014 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 1,954 9 4 hugs given	Aug 17, 2015 at 04:13 PM #8 We are all fools around women - you probably blew your chances when you did not help her move, but who can say, women are very strange.
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ManOfConstantSorrow Grand Poohbah Member Since Jul 2014 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 1,954 9 4 hugs given	Aug 21, 2015 at 03:14 PM #12 Gotta give some to get some, or a Nigerian girlfriend used to say 'hand come, hand go'.
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