[hartbroken]

When my girlfriend and I met, we were both very needy. She was attracted to me and I was attracted to her, maybe not as much - but I grew to care for her very much, which I do to this day I love her, so I thought the caring feelings would make up for the area of physical "spark" that was missing.

We've been together going on 7 years. Over the last few years, very gradually, I've been attracted to other girls. I don't want to get involved with another girl, because they can't care for me like my girlfriend does. But the temptation is tough, and the spark of energy I feel when certain other women are around make me smile in ways I'm missing now. My girlfriend notices a little, but she wants to hold on to me "forever".

I'm not sure what to do. If I decide to tell her I'm not as attracted as much as before, and that I want to break up, she would be hurt so deeply. She is very dependent on me to go out and go places, etc.. If I decide, by my own choice, to be true to her in everyway despite my needs not quite being met, I'm sort of cheating myself in a way.

And, I wonder what part my bipolar depression plays in not being able to be completely happy with her. So that might be a crucial point.

[QuirkyGirl99]

If you are not physically attracted to her and do not plan on spending the rest of your life with her, then do both of yourselves a favor and break it off. It sounds like you are more friends than lovers. You will only be hurting her more by keeping things going. Give her a chance to learn to be stable on her own. She deserves a shot at moving on and meeting someone who is truly attracted to her.

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Did you have that spark in the beginning or was it never there in the first place?