I don't understand guys

I never have understood them. I can never tell if a guy likes me or not. I like a guy now and i'm getting mixed signals. He is friendly and gives me hugs. But waits for me to find him in the crowd. As soon as i look at him he is giving me a hug and smiling.I meet him late last year at one of the main places i hang out and he is a regular there to.I never noticed him till one night he came over to me and talked about the band that was playing there.Ever since then i notice him a lot at shows. When i first meet him. I thought he was pretty cool.A few times when i saw him i was hanging out with this now Ex friend of mine and when she was around he'd act distant. As soon as she'd walk away he'd be more talkactive.But she use to try to hit on him and he looked annoyed and uncomfortable.Last night he was at another local hang out and when i was rocking out to a local band.I noticed out of the corner of my eye he was 2 people behind me. So i turned around and waved at him and he waved at me back.Then after the 2 bands i went to see where done playing. I turned around and he was still standing near me. So when i walked by he stopped me and gave me a big hug.Then later i was trying to find some friends who told me they'd be at the show.I saw him out of the corner of my eye and he looked mad or dissapointed that i did not go back over to him.I'm not sure if he likes me or he go's hugging up on other girls. Every time i see him he is either alone or hanging out with his one male friend.I'm shy when i like a guy.I don't want to be one of them women who are to obvious or act easy.Plus if he don't like me. Like i like him. I don't want to scare him off. Because i like him as a potential friend.We have a lot of the same taste in music etc.

Hmm… well I could tell that you’re just driving yourself crazy with all these questions that you’re waiting on someone else to resolve for you and this would have to be your friend. From my past experience, guys are straight forward. Have you ever thought about just coming out and just asking him to have a private lunch date maybe? Ask him “would you like to go out with me for lunch, instead of saying hey lets hang out for lunch.” Would you rather find out now and let it drive you crazy and start your summer this way and take things back into your own hands.

I admit i am afraid of rejection or that he might not get that i am just willing to be his friend. If he is not into me. A lot of guys think if a girl likes them. That a girl can't get over the fact.They don't feel the same way. Hell i tend to get along better with guys than females.

Sounds like you both may be a bit concerned about rejection to take it to another place. If you want to Jenn1fer82's suggestion about lunch is a good place to start. Some of us guys are a bit on the shy side...

Maybe i will ask him out to lunch eventually.I'm kind of hesitant to do it though.Because of past bad experinces with guys and my depression. The main reason i like this guy. Is because he is a lot friendlier than most folks i have meet near where i live.

You've got time on your side - no need to rush anything...when you are comfortable...you will know!!

Hopefully i'm comfortable soon. Because the waiting is killing me lol jk.

I can relate to your frustration...the person I'm drawn to...well let's just say there has been little interaction as I'm scared out of my wits.

Some of them are so lacking in self-introspection, they may not even understand themselves. IMNSHO

Or we have done some self-introspection and feel that we have been measured and weighed and left wanting...