I am going through a separation and divorce with my spouse who left in crisis never to come back. My neighbor has been "in love with me" before my spouse left while she was still here. Now yesterday he told me i am all he thinks about. He thinks of me all the time as wanting to hug me everytime he sees me. He is jealous he says of my friends that i hang with around here. He told me instead of selling his RV he wanted him and me to ride cross country in it. I told my other two friends that for the "fourth" time I told him i was not interested. I had a sleepless night last night. After midnight i was still up and went over to his house and my other friend was there. I told her and him about i had an uneasy feeling. I left and came home and found a "letter" slipped under my door from the neighbor. And he went on and on "poetically" in it. I called my girlfriend over there and said OMG, i read the letter. The guy thought he was trying to be romantic. I told the girlfriend about his wanting us to drive cross country in his RV. And i told him about his being jealous, i thought he was a control freak. He agreed that he was. Now she says if i write letter back he could be suicidal based on what he wrote in the letter. I wrote a letter in reply to his and had her slip it under his door for he was still awake (the neighbor). My Lord! What is it with men? Do they really feel that a woman separated is a target to hit on? And my spouse is another woman, a lady actually whom i still love very much. I attract attention where i do not want it. I am dealing with my own issues with depression and etc. I said to my girlfriend, "I will not feel responsible if he wants to commit suicide. I am just an excuse if he does it." This is how much i have grown and do not feel sorry for the man. He is OBSESSED with me to the point of being uncomfortable as if he is stalking me.

My neighbor is now starting on the lady next door. Still asking about me through her but now is pursing her. I am so glad he is leaving me alone.

[Rose76]

Don't give this guy any attention because it will be misinterpreted. Stop going over to his house and don't write him anymore letters. You are smart to see his interest as potentially dangerous. The guy is a loon.

[divine1966]

Don't go to his house and don't write him letters. Stir away

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I am not writing any more letters. I wrote one letter saying NO means NO, I was not interested and leave me alone. I do not go over to his house. Yes, he gives me a very uneasy feeling. He was all chipper not depressed moving in on my other neighbor asking her to go out to breakfast with him and come over for dinner. He never asked me out to dinner. He is an opportunist. I do not trust him and I am keeping my distance. Oh the troubles of dealing with older people with baggage. They expect they can get you to take care of them cause they are older. And he only mentioned me constantly while my neighbor went over to his house. He is using her to keep track of me. I feel very uneasy with this. I am glad I have put in to move. Unbelievable. Thanks for your feedback. I thought my gut feeling was correct, you confirmed it to me.