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Nov 29, 2015, 05:38 PM
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I have a friend who is quite shallow, she has her own issues and as such can be quite cold and distant. We've been friends since we were children and I've noticed that I am quite drawn to people that are cold and cannot give me love.
She has recently found new friends and rarely contacts me anymore and it kills me as she's pretty much my only friend at the moment. Her coldness hurts me and it makes me desperate for her to appreciate me and want to invite me out with her new friends, but she doesn't. I hate feeling so desperate and I want to value myself enough to move on but I'm so lonely I'm afraid to let go. What can I do? 
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Nov 29, 2015, 06:33 PM
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Still be there for her but try to make some new friends of your own.
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Nov 29, 2015, 06:57 PM
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Eleny, do you belong to any groups? Hobbies, sports, religious, political etc? If so try to connect with ppl in one of your groups who has simular intrests... If not then check around your area for community events where you might meet some new ppl. As far as being drawn to ppl who don't really appreciate you.... I would suggest making a list 3 columns: qualities you like about yourself, qualities/ behaviors you see in your current relationships, and qualities you would ideally like I'm a friend/ relationship.... From there maybe you can better gauge why you are drawn to the ppl you are and what to look for to find healthier relationships... :
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Dec 04, 2015, 08:04 PM
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Neccessary Endings, by Henry Cloud is an excellent book, which helped me to get my head around when to let go, and how. thanks
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Dec 25, 2015, 06:40 PM
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