[Ambitious Ways]

I have a problem with my girlfriend the lying, the could care less attitude, shows no emotion. The thing that is more complex about mine is we have a year old baby boy together. When she was pregnant she showed some emotion but as soon as she had the baby back to the same thing and acts the same way with the baby. I feel like there is something from here past is causing this and that if she were to talk about whatever it is that it would help but everytime i try to touch base on her past she gets angry at me and says for me to back off. Its frustrating, i do not know what to do know she is suggesting that we work on our relationship living apart. Which then brings the baby issue in to play. All i want is for her to be real with me. If she doesnt want to have a relationship to just say she doesnt and thats that.

[kaliope]

hi ambitious ways
it appears that she is struggling but she does not want to talk about her about it with you. she seems willing to work on the relationship still, but needs her space. she apparently has asked you to "back off", but you keep bringing things up, places she doesnt want to go. letting her know you care and providing some resources for therapy may be helpful. she could be suffering from post partum depression as well. as for the "baby issue", make sure if you do leave, you work out a custody/visitation plan and file it with the court no matter how friendly of terms you are on. document all your time and financial support with the child until you do get an official decree. trust me on this.

welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome

[ComfortablyNumb5]

Dealing with a SO that won't let down their walls must be hard! Honestly, I wouldn't be able to be in the relationship for too long unless they agreed to seek therapy. I'm such an open, emotional person and I would need that in return. I'm not saying to leave her I'm just saying what I would feel. However if you find you've had enough then I guess you've had enough! Make sure you guys always keep some kind of healthy relationship for the child's sake weather you're together or not. Good luck!