I got some money as an inheritance from my grandparents. It wasn't a lot, but it was a modest amount that could be used towards a productive goal. It wouldn't be enough to live off of or anything for more than a year or so, but still significant. Anyways, when I was a teenager, I pretty much would spend whatever I made at work. I managed my money very poorly, and I am still kind of like that at times. I had that money in a joint bank account, but my Mom signed it over to herself. She had said she'd give me the option, but she just went out to the bank and signed it over. She said that she did that because she was afraid I'd go right through it. Anyways, time passed and I kind of forgot about it. When I got older, I attempted to confront them about it a few times. They would agree to transfer it into a CD of my own, but they'd accuse me of "wanting to piss it all away". However, this has not happened yet. I intend for it too, but it still hasn't. Anyways, the other night we had kind of an argument. Basically, they found out I was doing some stuff I shouldn't have. Things got kind of ugly. My Mom said some very nasty things that night in anger. I was asking to take that money and leave the house. They wouldn't let me, because they were saying that I wouldn't be able to manage it. It is true that I tend to manage money very poorly still. However, even as I was insisting, they still were not giving it to me. Truthfully, part of me wonders if they are simply planning to pocket it for themselves I could be wrong about this, but I truly do kind of wonder

[eskielover]

Hmmmm ifnyounare that irresponsible with money & doing something that started a huge fight....inthinknyiur parents are wise holding onto it until you prove that you can be responsible tho.....

I married a guy who never did become responsible with money in the 33 years I was married to him & after I finally left, he managed to let the house go into foreclosure. Then he managed to get to the point where he was living on overdrafts to pay all his bills.....just glad he's out of my life....so I understand where your parents are coming from. There will come a time in your life you REALLY NEED that money & it's better they protect it for you. You could always ask them for a bank statement to see how mush they are protecting for you....but ifnyounare as irresponsible as you say you are....you should be thankful your parents are caring for you

[ChipperMonkey]

How old are you?

If you're an adult, good intentions be damned. They have no legal right to your money outside of a trust fund situation and even that has its own set of rules.

If they refuse to give it to you, you may be SOL.

[healingme4me]

That's a hefty accusation. Hard to say if it's stealing. Is there a paper trail naming you specifically as the beneficiary of said inheritance? If so, that money does/did belong in your name only. Your mom, while you were a minor could be listed, but it's complicated and a legal matter. Perhaps consult with an attorney that specializes in estates?

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Well I talked to them about getting it set up in my own bank account........ again. The thing is I'm thinking of actually talking with somebody at the bank today. They seemed to be in favor of the whole idea of having it in my name, in a CD. Hopefully, this all goes as planned. Otherwise, they ARE stealing. Hopefully, that isn't the case, and I don't think it will be.

[Rose76]

They may very well have already spent some of that money.

Originally Posted by Rose76

They may very well have already spent some of that money.

To be honest, it wouldn't entirely surprise me. I don't want to think that of them, but sadly there are times that I wonder just that. I've seen the statements, and it appears that it is still there. However, there are times I wonder if I'm getting ********ted on it. I really hope that's not the case. Although I've had issues with them at times, I'd really, really like to think they wouldn't be as awful as to do that. In a way, I don't think they would be. However, I won't know until the money is safely in my account.

[Rose76]

If it is legally under their name now, I don't see how you will ever get control of it again.

Originally Posted by Rose76

If it is legally under their name now, I don't see how you will ever get control of it again.

I've talked to her tonight. I am calling this bank in the morning, and I told her about that. They don't seem to be interested in scoffing it up, but if they don't let me make this transfer to my account...... then they obviously are stealing...... I don't think that'll happen though. I'm calling the bank tomorrow, and we discussed options for it. The question came up in the dialogue of having it as a joint account versus having it just under my name. I haven't decided yet. I feel like if they're being genuine with me and not looking to steal, there's no reason why it couldn't be a joint account. That way if she was afraid I'd leave and take it impulsively during an argument, she'd be able to have some degree of control in it. She said it was up to me whether or not to have it be a joint account, so that's good. It makes me think the transaction is going to go through. To be honest, I'm glad she said that it didn't have to be a joint account.......... because I really don't want it to be one! I mean it's been nerve wracking having them "holding on" to that money. There have been many times when I've feared that they could be stealing from me, and if I get that transfer made, I won't have to worry about it anymore Hopefully, it will be happening soon. Then, I'll be able to put all this to rest for good