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Old Jan 15, 2016, 06:33 PM
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I don't like seeing other people happy in relationships as in not them personally or the relationship they have. I just feel like it comes off to me fake it's more me than them. I am happy they are happy, but I don't like how it feels like an exclusive club of people who just want to rain on your parade trying to taunt you. You wonder why I say this. I'm not worried about being alone, I chose that life, but it's frustrating when you did what they did and it never happened like it did for them.

I am used to feeling used I don't feel happy when I have feelings more anger and frustration and regret of even opening up. I get angry, because I can't cope most of the time when someone likes me or not. In response to my latest previous post.

I hate seeing these quotes constantly propaganda like always forcing the thought that I have to fight fight fight for love and that it takes a lot of effort, but what I got was fight fight fight for nothing. I didn't need those people anymore, but for me to actually do that, the other has to show they want that from me. I need initiative and I need someone who is willing to show it. I don't trust one person even if they say they like me it makes me trust them less.

I don't like being around guys who just blindly go for some girl and be a jerk about it same with girls about guys. It literally makes me want to vomit.

I get very angry because I feel they are all assholes. Like their mission is to not be my friend, by being a pretend friend until someone comes along and they drop me. I'm so used to it, I don't believe anything from anyone.

If it made sense to you. I shouldn't have to fight for anyone they should come to me, but that's not reality, because I'm a guy not a girl. Life's unfair I get it.

Like I don't need to be reminded every day.

One of my biggest annoyances when guys act like a pack of heyenas to a carcass when one girl just broke up with someone we knew they try to fight for her like they're going to war. Yeah the girl likes it, but omg it feels so stupid and fake and just a joke. Valentines day is just a giant representation of that joke.

If I truly connected with someone it wouldn't work as long I would hope it to be because this person would grow tired of me and just jump on the next ship possible. So I contend myself to be content with being alone and not talking to people.

So no, just because I'm a guy. I shouldn't have to fight for anyone and I'll be content with my choice even if it's hard. I don't care, I don't want it if it's not good. Alot of it isn't good.

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Old Jan 17, 2016, 07:55 AM
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Is it possible to limit your exposure to the Valentine posts??

I've only seen the candies and cards in the stores, but noone that I know is talking about it nor flaunting the fact.

I tell people that by Valentine's day, I'm burnt out on holiday & birthday celebration. Seeing it's two weeks after my birthday. Ba humbug

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Old Jan 18, 2016, 10:31 AM
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Is it possible to limit your exposure to the Valentine posts??

I've only seen the candies and cards in the stores, but noone that I know is talking about it nor flaunting the fact.

I tell people that by Valentine's day, I'm burnt out on holiday & birthday celebration. Seeing it's two weeks after my birthday. Ba humbug

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Yes by not going on Fb yes in public no
But I'm not bitter being alone it's just me not getting to understand why I am not so affectionate or even caring about the whole thing. It feels devoid and not what it should feel like. It's like the opposite.
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Old Jan 18, 2016, 10:44 AM
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It is kind of like a forced and contrite day. I find that the longer others have been involved, the less of an 'in your face' celebration it becomes. Plus, living in New England, the idea of going out is hit and miss because of the weather. Toss in some kids and voila, it's just like any other day. As a parent, I'm then left not only buying more trinket items and traditional candies, but supplying those little cards and then those all come home and I find random cards even in the summer that have found their way into nooks and crannies. Plus the premise alone, disturbs me, the historical meaning. You'll find me wearing all black, by the way.

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Thanks for this!
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Old Jan 18, 2016, 04:16 PM
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If I don't celebrate or acknowledge certain holidays, then I don't. What do I care if other people acknowledge certain holidays? It's like I am not Christian I would get upset others celebrate Christmas. You think Valentine is stupid holiday then don't pay any attention to it. No reason to take it personally.

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Old Jan 18, 2016, 05:08 PM
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If I don't celebrate or acknowledge certain holidays, then I don't. What do I care if other people acknowledge certain holidays? It's like I am not Christian I would get upset others celebrate Christmas. You think Valentine is stupid holiday then don't pay any attention to it. No reason to take it personally.

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Not what I'm getting at. I don't and ignore it like always by not really paying mind to it. I do my best not to remember the bad experiences I had with my previous gfs and friend . It's kinda a time of year where bad stuff happen. I get sorta superstitious, but I don't know what I'm talking about now.
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