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I spend a great deal of time alone, and I do all my activities alone: like going to the cinema alone, biking alone, go to the restaurants alone, walking in the city and through the parks alone.
Often, I feel a bit awkward, because people are usually with someone in the same places as I am. I cannot help but feeling this. Has anyone been alone in some activity and felt the same way? The only option for me to not be alone in the outdoors, is to be alone in the indoors all the time, which is a guaranteed road for insanity and craziness. |
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I do some activities alone.
I would probably feel awkward if it was romantically inclined place like if I went to dance alone and had no one to dance with or something, other than that who cares. I was single most of my adulthood so I had to do things alone and it didn't bother me. Most of the time at least. It probably bothered me at times. I think our society is obsessed that everyone needs to be paired up. Every time I think of it I remember my grandmothers funeral. We were very close and i was devastated. I was single at the time and my daughter who was a teen then lived with me but was overseas on a trip with her dad. We burry next day it maximum two days so she couldn't arrive back. . We were all arriving to a funeral home separately as obviously we don't all live together. We then drove to a cemetery and then all went to shiva. Funeral director bugged me the whole time why am I alone why I am driving alone why I came alone etc etc he kept saying he didn't want me to drive to cemetery alone and wanted me to ride with my parents, it didn't make any sense as we then all had to go to my aunts abs then somebody would have to drive me back to get my car!!! He kept saying he felt bad for me. OMG I was at grandmother funeral! Not at dance party. I was clearly upset with puffy eyes I was with my family etc and somehow it was a problem I was not paired up with someone!!!! Go outdoors and do whatever you like doing. No need to feel awkward let alone to sit at home. I also have to say that many people you see together might be actually miserable. They might want to be alone and envy you Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Thanks for sharing your story.
Once I told my colleagues at work that I go to the cinema alone, which is something I do every week, and they said it is not good to be alone in the cinema. I guess everyone feels the pressure that being alone is, for some reason, something not desirable. For me it is the only viable option, since I asked people to go out together in the past, but gave me excuses. At first, I stayed at home as a result, but then I decided that no one can stop me from going out and enjoying my time, at least I would stop my downward spiral to craziness. It was a huge step for me to break the barrier and go out alone as I exerted a lot of mental effort on it, because I felt negatively about it. Now I don't have problems in going out alone, at least sometimes, but I still have this inner feeling of awkwardness, which sometimes makes me to withdraw. |
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That colleague is ridiculous. How is that bad going to movies alone? It's entirely subjective!!!
If you do want some company have you tried meetup? My area has many. If you like movies we have s few as well, even separate by genre . If you are on s shy side you don't have to socialize much with movie meetups , just watch a movie in a group and then maybe eat together and discuss or go home. Check meetups in your area. We have some where people meet in different restaurants. Again it could be specifically themed meetup, like certain kind of restaurants. Again if you are not extremely social you talk to only people next to you. Nobody will give you an excuse in meetup as it doesn't work this way. And you have the power to choose what to attend and when etc Give it a try Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Do you have any social gatherings at work? Like having a dinner with the whole group where everybody is invited?
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I do things alone a lot also. I don't really have any friends here. We moved to TX about 3 years ago, and it is hard to make friends in a new place, for me anyways. So, if my husband is doing something and I am alone, I will go out to lunch alone, and read a book. I feel a little awkward, but it is usually an enjoyable time. I am pretty good company if I don't say so myself! Yesterday I went to lunch at a place that has outdoor seating and the weather was a little chilly so I thought it would be quiet, but man it was packed with lots of people. Of course, I sat there, alone, reading my book, and felt a little odd, but overall, enjoyed it.
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I live with my boyfriend and daughter and I feel so completely alone most of the time and he's right next to me. I feel like he isn't really interested in anything I have to say, that Im not important enough to have a real converstion with. But then I watch him interract with others and it is a whole different thing. He will carry on nonstop conversations with others while I am sitting right there, but when we're alone again he barely acknowledges me.. it hurts
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Have you tried online dating? Many women would appreciate sensitive and shy guy.
I am very sensitive to noise too. I cannot tolerate any background noise. Maybe it's because I spend my days in constant noise and movement ( high school), outside of work I need quiet. Like the only time I want tv on if I watch a movie like once a week and i only listen to music when driving to work alone. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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I guess dealing with students in high school is not easy. I like to listen to calm music, especially piano and violin. It is very soothing for me. |
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There are out there. Try online? No not easy, but I love it, I'd hate quiet job. I love fast pace and all the noise of dealing with teens. Yet when I leave work I love quiet. Everyone is different. I do love piano too. My whole family plays piano. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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OK. I'll try it.
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Jenny you quoted me in your post. It was Nicknames post about not liking crowds and gatherings
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