[Hedgeleaf]

I'm really missing my ex

I'm tempted to unblock his number and contact him.

I'm really upset as I've heard he's removed all our photos from Facebook and whatsapp profile.

I know we've broken up because he was a jerk but it hurts so bad I'm worried he already has someone else 😞

[Trippin2.0]

Missing someone doesn't mean it was a bad idea to leave them behind.


My ex gave me a blue eye and bruised ribs when I left him, and guess what, I ended up missing him. Him of all people.


But its all part of the process, and yes, grief is a process, you're grieving the death of your relationship and all the dreams that died with it.


So its ok to miss him, acknowledge it, but distract yourself, and keep keeping on.


If he already has someone else that just means he's even MORE of a heartless jerk than you realized.

It would only be a negative reflection of him, nothing more.


So why worry huh?


Don't unblock him, remind yourself why it ended, please go re-read your birthday thread, that should help.

[healingme4me]

What Trippin said ^^

My exh had a very hard time letting go. So for me, removal of photos would have been a godsend. I think he finally did. I still have times where I've grieved what could have been "if only". But if only, only goes so far.

Who told you that he removed photos? It might be wise to ask those in your inner circle to please not give updates.

[Bill3]

What Trippin said.

I'm sorry that you are hurting right now.

It sounds like he acted in anger again in taking down the photos.

[Hedgeleaf]

Thank you all

Just feeling kind of rubbish really.

I know I shouldn't unblock him and I won't. I just can't stop hurting

[Bill3]

[Trippin2.0]

Of course it hurts, but the pain won't last, and when it is finally over, you can at least be glad you escaped an even bigger train wreck.


You'll get through this, the pain is not permanent.


Post away as much as you need to, don't bottle up the hurt.

[divine1966]

It is only normal to hurt. It makes you human. Just give it a bit more time and it will get better

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[Moni13]

It may hurt now. The pain from this breakup will not last forever. Time truly does heal and eventually you will heal. I hope that you do and I wish you tge best during this difficult time. HUGS

[Rabbit1256]

How long ago did you break up?

It most likely will take some time for the strong feeling you are feeling right now to dull itself. Count on the fact that it will. I suggest that you should try to occupy yourself with activities, talk to friends about fun, interesting things, or just get outside. Also, you should spend some time searching this site and responding to some posts with some words of support. Helping others is an action that can take our own minds of our own pain, even if it is just for a short time. Fresh air in itself can wipe away a lot of pain.

Pain is what you are feeling and pain is always most prominent directly after suffering the wound. Then the pain dulls with time. As you may never forget you ex, the pain will subside. It is a fact.

[emijec]

I'm sorry that you are feeling this way. I've been there, looking at my phone debating whether I should send a simple text, like throwing a fishing line into the lake. But it's the fear of loneliness that has made me do that. In the past, my gut has told me that the person isn't right but my heart longed for companionship and fear of getting older and being alone (I'm 34), especially when you're surrounded by nothing but couples, advertising, etc.
If he already took down the pictures, he may have done so out of anger or because he's begun the process of getting over the relationship.

I say cry your eyes out, watch movies, eat snacks, veg, whatever you need to to grieve. Then throw a life line to a friend. You should focus on yourself and figure out why you broke up, was it you, was it him, what can you learn? Have an emotional growth spurt. Work on yourself, if you feel like you made a bad decision and he was 100% the right guy, you could follow up months in the future. If you dont feel that way 2 months from now, you'll know he wasn't for you.

The last time I contacted an ex, he gave me another chance and said he missed me and he made a mistake, blah blah. We gave it another go, only to find out he preferred cocaine than me. I had no idea he even did that, I ended up 2x hurt and fell into depression.

Now, what I did next probably wasn't smart but I did, I downloaded Okcupid and found myself a date. It made me feel better, knowing that there was life beyond my ex and I ended up dating the kindest person and made me realize that I made a mistake going back to the ex and to try to work things out when he clearly had issues. Suffice it to say that it didn't work out with kind guy b/c he's an alpha type and I didn't like that, but I learned more about myself and I handled .. well am handling this break up better.

In conclusion, try your best to distract yourself, exercise get fit and feel healthy, build confidence, make yourself better than you were before you were with this ex and when you're ready go on a date with someone new and see how it goes.