[NeverTrulyLoved]

Hi there. I recently had a dream about my ex girlfriend, she was graduating from college, and I came there to see her, but she didn't notice me.

I'm so damn sick of still being attached and thinking about her. She dumped me last year in January. Ever since then I have been depressed and suicidal at times. I just don't know what to do. I Facebook stalk her and still see if she is single. I feel so betrayed and hurt because she asked me to be her boyfriend, i agreed and was so happy, then a week later she dumped me.

Then a few months ago i found out she had a boyfriend this whole time, i looked at the date they got into a relationship and it was a week after she dumped me. That really pissed me off so i made Facebook one day and told her i was going to kill my self, she just told me to get help and she was sorry.

I feel like life is a rigged game stacked against me, I always get the short end of the stick. I even have tried online relationships since, and the girl always says she has a boyfriend or some other guy in her life. I feel like im worthless.
What is the point of even trying to find some one, when you will just end up being dumped for some one better? I resent women ever since what she did to me, I feel women have so many options for mates now because of online dating and tinder.

The resentment and bitterness still clings to me this day, I often have sick thoughts of harming my ex physically and really want to ruin her life. I would never do it but I'm so sick of having low self esteem and never having any one in my life that truly cares about me except for my parents. A lot of women are so obsessed and focused on things like college, work and then their families and friends. My ex was always busy with home work, but now she has enough ****ing time to have a boyfriend for a year who she loves and they have a great relationship i bet.

I don't know how to let go of her, after we have broke up, i have sent her long messages of how i feel, she has apologized and said she is very sorry, but i still have so much resentment, and can't let it go..

[Yismymindblank12]

You experienced a serious truama your feelings of resentment and wanting to get back and harm her are normal feelings of hurt intense hurt from a very truamtic experience.

Good thing you have common sense to not act and experience your feelings, but I would like to say everything you feel is right and yes you we're screwed over, but you'll finally find out your body and emotions will deescalate when you get in the habit more and more that she never respected you. Going off your post she's never trust worthy.

I dated 4 people that are such. I can tell you truly this won't be the last one. There will be many more, but it's a fact you need to find inner strength to take care and love your own self over her selfishness. See her crap for what you already know what she is and take in strife you survived and no longer with her no more.

I experienced this countless times years ago it gets easier as it goes you gotta let yourself breathe don't expect killing yourself to solve problems no amount of guilt or shade you put on her will change her mind. I'm saying if you run in this situation again make sure you don't try to kill yourself or mention any threats of that nature it will make things always worse on you. Many girl can be immature or have their own issues and will act in behaviors in this manner to either protect themself or they aren't having courage to break up with you maturely.

Even though you may think you really go out your way for her. Just always listen to her before you do anything as in for future reference.
So you have to feel your feelings and make room to heal that's going to get your mind in habit you're worth more than her leaving you and you'll feel better. I just had to do it again for like the 6th time this month. Like I've done this every time I learned how to be good at relationships the break ups and heartache give the best lessons.

Take care

[~Christina]

I'm sorry you were hurt so deeply .

The reality is you were only "dating" a week Thats hardly enough time to really know someone and the break up happened over a year ago, Im not invaladating your pain , but being suicidal and stalking her and thoughts of even harming her in real life ? You need to find a Therapist and work through the hurt and pain your suffering with.

Please reach out for help . Welcome to PC

[Bill3]

I agree that counseling is in order to address the feelings of betrayal, resentment, and grief that you are experiencing. What would you think about finding a therapist?

[divine1966]

I also recommend therapy. If she only dated you for one week I wouldn't really look at it as a betrayal or even a relationship. You would very much benefit from therapy especially if you are suicidal

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[Trippin2.0]

I'm with ^ these guys.


The level of pain you are enduring is not in proportion to the relationship you've described.


Best to seek therapy in order for you to be able to heal and move forward.


I'm really sorry for your torment