[Macd123]

Okay so I told my doctor that I we obsessed with a woman. She was very calm and it helped. I told her about the huge age difference and the details of the relationship. I told her it really wasn't a relationship in the traditional sense because were never really a couple. I told her I thought I was kind of a sounding board during a relationship that was ending. She wanted to know why I called it an obssession and I said because I think about her a lot. She remembered that I had a similar issue last year and she was fairly confident that I could work through this. She suggested that a med increase might help but left it up to me. It was a good meeting only problem is I wanted to stay all day - felt good having somebody listen.

PS I got another message from the lady I'm obsessed with - at the end she put smiley faces and a heart. I can't take it.....

[seeker1950]

Obsessing has been a huge problem for me also. Medication does help. I tend to think of all the things I could have done/said to make it better. Don't know if you do this, but in the end, you have to let it go. Since I don't know the kind of relationship you are describing, I can only say moving on to other things is a good thing. Loving yourself is a good thing. Focusing on other interests, etc. I actually went back to school to get my M.A, much of that time still thinking I would see him on campus, but eventually that passed. (Time really IS the great healer!) And the focus on study was challenging, rewarding and so beneficial. Haven't done that kind of obsessing since.