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I was rejected a few weeks ago,im not too sad about it,I don't feel much for him anymore,I didn't think of it much till today.I have other interests which keep me happy.i reccomend talking on Omegle.com to other people.
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You are very welcome. 😌 I read that your ex " promised" to take care of his friends family for him. That being said I commend him for his efforts to do so and you for being supportive of his decision. The issue I would bring to mind is this for future references.
There isn't any thing " wrong" with spending time with the opposite gender while in a relationship but is it " wise" to do so ? It could easily fall into a situation that leaves someone else hurt . Trusting your partner is a foundation of mutual respect but respect goes both ways . He and I hope he did have you heavily involved with his decision to care for another woman no matter who it is. Personally I would NEVER make that decision without the consent and presence of my partner . I still believe no matter what you've done " belittling , snapping or such" it was a way you were trying to communicate with him. Though it may have been not so much in a positive way but communicating none the less. Of course it is difficult to always talk about emotions ( even men) and especially emotionally heightened subjects. I hope you heal and become a stronger person in which this life lesson has taught you. I pray you find that person that you " need and want" . Remember as you well know that there is no "perfect " person but there is " perfect " relationship waiting for you. Take care and be the strong woman who you truly are. |
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that is all completely true... I just have to come to terms that it's over. that's the hard part, it's only been 7 days . I did send him a goodbye email, so that I could start the process of closure and to see if there was one more chance. I apologized and did communicate how hurt I felt about this situation with being there for his friends wife.
he never responded . and I suspect that it's bc something has flourished . nonetheless, I just have to cope with it all. I know it wasn't a good fit, and I helped end it with my behavior. I think what has most affected me is finding myself turning 34 and I guess o figured I'd find that person by now, that I'd have a chance at having a family soon. I do want to find love not perfection... that's unrealistic. i as just ready for happiness I guess. I'm not trying to find someone to make me happy I want to be happy and am ready to give my love. a true partnership I suppose. it's just hard to find someone at my age that is in the same stage. |
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This fella, who was supportive of the widow...in my humble opinion, your instincts were right to be concerned. Don't second-guess yourself on your responses/instincts. It made you feel insecure, and a loving relationship should not do that to you. If it didn't feel right, then, it wasn't. I sense that you are going back and questioning and even berating yourself for your emotional comments to him. Don't do that. If a man can't handle emotional confrontation in a dating scenario, what would it be like in a lifelong commitment! |
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