[DiamondsandGlitter]

So let me ask you this, say you meet a guy and hes not ugly but hes not attractive either. Young love is a very beautiful and painful thing although I have little experience in the matter. I meet him 2 years ago. And we got so close, we became best friends. He added me over every social media even stalked me and found me on some. But I never felt that intimacy appeal until we had known each other for some time. By this time I had a boyfriend. A really crappy one at that too. Although I wanted to believe the best in him and gave him many chances. My best friend supported me and told me I deserved better although I'm not sure who he meant. We hardly talked then. But then we broke up when my junior year of high school ended. And things got weird when school started up again. Our relationship was different. He'd hug me instead of bro high fives. If I mentioned I was cold or rubbed my arms he'd offer me his jacket. Every day he'd ask me to hangout with him either during school or afterward always with my friends or his. And since he previously mentioned a friend of mine was attractive I thought he was using me. He got very offended and never mentioned hanging out with me at school again. Don't get me wrong he has a lot of friends it just intrigued me that he would want to spend time with me. Seeing as what people could say and how he never hung out with me the year before since he was worried what his friends would say about us. His friends always made fun of us as a couple and joked about him liking me but he shrugged it off. His texts became everyday and he found excuses to hmu or send selfies, body pics, he even called me with lame excuses for homework questions. But he never mentioned he liked me, not once. And when my ex came back into my life he got so mad. Like why would I date that loser again when he treated me so bad he asked. And he was there for me and listened. And we broke up again after a month and that was the end of that. But this girl wanted him and they got together shortly after I was too busy to hangout with him on break since I went away and couldn't commute. He volunteered to drive me but I felt bad leaving my friends with my family to spend the day with him. And so the story continues. I told him I don't care how crazy it sounds, I like him and if that affects our friendship so be it. This was before they got together, before she even told him she liked him. And he said he was into me for a long time and was waiting for me to say something. The very next day he said it was a lie and blamed me for ruining our friendship. And it took us a couple of weeks to recover. I guess he mentioned this too her since she asks him about me and notices we talk a lot. Although it isn't my fault. He hits me up regardless if I ignore him. I keep getting dragged into their drama though. He snapped me so much she UN-added me off of his snap. And he liked my post a few weeks ago and she took me off that as well. And he still texts me 24/7. There's always an excuse for him to hit me up. And I know he's miserable sometimes, he tells me as much, but he "lovvvvess her" and I'm there to listen. But sometimes I'm tired of being caught up in their drama and insecurities. I need to find my own man and don't need to deal with all of this. Any suggestions? My brother even told me your a ******** idiot he totally liked you, and I'm just like yea sure okay.

[Bill3]

You could tell him that you want to be his girlfriend, not his counselor. You could tell him that since he is not available you will be open to seeing other guys. You could stop listening to his drama.You could stick to your guns and consistently not listen or respond when he tries to share drama with you.

What do you think of those options?

[Skeezyks]

Hello DiamondsandGlitter: This appears to be your first post here on PC... so... welcome to PsychCentral... from the Skeezyks! May you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

[LiteraryLark]

The thing is, once you're out of high school, all this won't matter anymore. That's what I've learned about dating in high school.

Welcome to PC Forums, blessings and tc