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Apr 25, 2016, 02:54 PM
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If you love someone who doesn't seem to love you and is not someone who will open up to you, is no contact the way to go? After a year and a half of trying to become close to someone I feel I must give up. I saw him again nearly three weeks ago and we had a wonderful time and I thought we had connected again. This keeps happening, he'll contact me after 2 weeks-3 months, we will bond again and I think I have a friend. I will be excited and try to get together with him and he'll give me a non committal answer. If he wants to get together he will blow up my phone with texts and beg me to see him, but once I see him then he just ignores me. Everything has to be on his terms in terms of getting together and he only seems to be primarily interested in me physically. I have tried explaining to him that I want to be close friends and hear from him frequently and all I get is " it takes time." After 15 months nothing has changed and I keep getting disappointed and hurt. I don't trust myself to not respond to his texts when he begs to see me again so today I blocked his number. I have in the past pushed him away because I am hurt by him not appearing to care but he always contacts me again.Do you think I did the right thing?
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Apr 25, 2016, 03:09 PM
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It's what I would do, too.
You've tried and tried but it seems he won't or can't offer any more.
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Apr 25, 2016, 03:35 PM
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I think you did the right thing. It sounds like he is using you, and blocking his number keeps him from doing so.
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Apr 25, 2016, 03:37 PM
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You did the right thing IMO too.
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Apr 25, 2016, 05:15 PM
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Agreed. You did the right thing.
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Apr 25, 2016, 05:19 PM
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You did the right thing
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Apr 25, 2016, 05:59 PM
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I agree too ...
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Apr 25, 2016, 08:40 PM
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Absolutely did the right thing.
I had to go "no contact" with a platonic friend who was getting toxic. I was afraid I wouldn't be able to do it as we had talked almost every day. But after the first few days it got easier. It's been almost two months and I think of her but have no desire to contact her. It has been easier than I thought. You can do it. Plus, there is great relief to get rid of the "drama".
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Apr 25, 2016, 09:04 PM
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You did the right thing.
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Apr 27, 2016, 12:13 AM
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You did the right thing.
I have a friend in sort of a similar situation. She's been "seeing" a guy for 2? 3? years now, but he doesn't make anything official. Like, he doesn't go out on actual dates with her. Wait, a few months ago he did. She was excitedly telling me about how he officially asked her out on a date and I was thinking, "Girl, you are obviously far more sane than I am. Or perhaps not?" Apparently, he married a mail-order bride like, 5 years ago and she left him and said she never loved him and it broke his heart so he's doing the "It takes time," tango as well and I'm like, "How much effing time?" Anyway, to confirm: you did the right thing. |
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