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Ok. This story starts from my high school in the second year. We knew each other just by a club in school. We got in love and after 5 months (April 2015) we have this relationship till now. For a year, I thought he showed his love, but I was wrong.
I joined some committees of events at school, but he didn't. In my busy times, as a girl I expected him to support me and understand me, right ? In reality, he was always angry at me bcz I can't give him my time, he always jealous at me because my partner was a boy. Everything I did always wrong for him. Since 6th month until now, he always force me to do some sex activities, although in my country it's a taboo. We often fight until now, just because simple things. He jealous a lot over my friends when I spent my time with them. We ever broke up for 5 weeks, and I don't know why I can still accept him. But now I realize that it is an abusive relationship. And wht i'm afraid is if I can't do things to reach my future in university or longer. My friends always ask me why I am so strong to still be with him. I love him but I don't know how to change all of this thing, can I fix him or have I to leave? |
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You cannot fix him.
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You cannot fix him
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Can't fix others.
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No, you should not stay in an abusive relationship.
That was an easy one. If he's willing to go into counseling with you to work it out, it may have a chance. Otherwise, dump the chump. |
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Der!!! you now realise it's an abusive relationship.Jeez, no wonder nice guys get nowhere. If that is what you want stay with him but don't ask for sympathy. There are BDSM sites where you can get that without being in a relationship, if that's what you want.
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You cant change him End this you deserve better.
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It's time to end the relationship. You have goals which are more important than dealing with someone who clearly does not appreciate you or respect your boundaries, and you should never settle for someone who doesn't treat you well.
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Do you really even have to ask? Hell no. Move on
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He is obviously a controlling and abusive guy who will never change probably. Don't waste your time with him. Dump him immediately. A guy who truly cares about you would never force you to have sex with him. I hope that you didn't do anything yet.
Most abusers try to isolate their victims from friends and family. Don't let him do that. It's his way of trying to control you and have you all to himself. A normal guy wouldn't be jealous of you spending time with your friends. Block his email, number, and don't talk to him again. Don't even offer him any explanation. He might end up trying to hurt you if you do. Tell your friends to not give out your personal info to him if he asks as well as your family. Let them know that he's crazy and that you want him to leave you alone. |
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