[Crazy Hitch]

I still love my ex

Ughhhhh.

The person I knew for 19 years is the person I keep remembering when I think of him as a "person". Not this asshole that he's become the last 5 months.

I think that's what hurts the most. Someone else has the man I still love

And it hurts.

I am sorry. I imagine you will love him for a while. I think only time will help heal.

[Hairball]

Crazy,
Your feelings are absolutely normal hun. I was still feeling like that years and years into the divorce.

Strangely enough after all this time I feel sorry for the one he has been with all this while........Not sure why my perspective changed so drastically but I like it.

[divine1966]

It's normal. It hasn't been long enough. It will get better. Are you in therapy?

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[TishaBuv]

I say "All is fair in love and war." He cheated on you, left you for another woman, callously booted you from your home, shafting you in a divorce. He has proven to not be a quality man.

Do other women steal husbands every day of the week? yes
Did you love him before all this happened? Yes

So it's only normal you still love him, even though he devastated you.

You have options. One of those options is to tell him you still love him, seduce him, try to win him back. Give the B a run for her money. Make his head swell with your desire for him just like she is doing that won his frail little ego over and made him abandon his loving wife and family (the weak little man).

Do I think you should do this? Hell no. But you can if you want to.

[Moogieotter]

Miss you, Hitch! (((hugs)))

[Bill3]

[Crazy Hitch]

Originally Posted by divine1966

It's normal. It hasn't been long enough. It will get better. Are you in therapy?

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I see a psychologist in acute mental health services by the state that I've been seeing since last year, but the reasons for me being there, I've been deemed to "well" *cough* or so to speak so she's referring me to a different psychologist [I was manic psychotic last year]

I just wanted to say:

You loving him still. Does not reflect on him or what kind of person he is. It reflects on who you are, that you are able to love and not hate him even though you know he doesn't deserve it for everything he put you through.

She may be really happy with him right now. But remember that after awhile he could do the same to her that he did to you. You did nothing to cause him to be this way, and she is not a better person than you were, so what reason would he have to stay with her forever? I don't like to assume things but I don't think they will be together for very long. Right now it may look like it, but wait and see.

People change, but if he wanted to change and be a good person he would at least act like he cared. At least you know who you are. You a good person, you aren't like him and you are a strong person.

That's all. Take care.

[~Christina]

I think how your feeling is very common.. Time will in fact help ease the heartbreak. Very hard to see that now of course.

I think back to my first husband that cheated on me... He just cheated, Something that I honestly would never have thought he would do , Nor his family and mine.. but he did . and he married the woman.. All they do is fight.

Go easy on yourself, what your going through sadly happens to most everyone that is cheated on.

Mourn the man he "use" to, but remember what he has turned into, Not a Man but a POS.. He will likely cheat on "her" Sometimes Karma happens and we get to see it and sometimes it takes forever.

[yagr]

Originally Posted by Anna72914

I just wanted to say:

You loving him still. Does not reflect on him or what kind of person he is. It reflects on who you are.

This. Absolutely this.

[Bill3]

I completely agree with Anna and yagr.

[mugwort2]

Its hardly ever easy to get over a love relationship. Especially where one is cheated on. As far as I know never expeienced that experience. I do know time can be healing. Good luck to you.