[lovethesun]

About 2 years ago, there was an incident with my then 8 year old daughter. She was invited over to person's house to swim with their daughter. My daughter and this "friend" were playing a game where they were giving each other piggy back rides in the pool. Someone in the home saw this, got the wrong idea, and started yelling at my daughter accusing her of holding the other girl's head under water. My daughter, absolutely was NOT doing this, they were playing a game. And the other girl knew that, but said nothing and let my daughter take the blame for something horrible that she was being falsely accused of. My daughter did not defend herself as she said she was intimidated by the yelling adult. When I found out about this, I spoke to the parents of this girl (who were continuing to falsely accuse my daughter) and told them that they were not correct, what they were saying DID NOT happen and stated the girls were playing a game that the yelling adult misinterpreted as holding a head under water. I explained my daughter would never do such a thing. Personally, these people I feel were just looking for a reason to not invite my daughter over anymore and they are the type of people who will twist information into a bold faced lie in order to justify their hateful thoughts. They've always had it out for my daughter. And I feel they probably continue to state this lie to other people about my daughter to this day. My daughter has never been back to their home and never will be and I promptly unfriended this family from my FB. But to this day, I feel I did not defend my daughter strongly enough. I wish I had more forcefully defended my daughter and told them they should be ashamed for making such a sick and nasty accusation against an 8 year old. I wished I'd yelled a few 4 letter words at them also. I feel I did my daughter some sort of injustice by not taking these people to task more forcefully than I did. And it still bothers me 2 years later. Thanks in advance for your thoughts and advice on this. The guilt is eating me up.

[divine1966]

I think you defended your daughter sufficiently. Yelling 4 letter words at them wouldn't make a better defense. You explained that she didn't do such thing and going any further with it such as using profanity or yelling would not make it more true. Be glad neither you nor your daughter associate with them anymore.

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