Are older women only flattered by attention from adolescent boys?

This came up in another thread and someone suggested starting another thread about this, so that is what I am doing.

It seems to me that the only sexual attention that women are ever flattered by is sexual attention that comes from boys in their teens and the teenish looking 20somethings. It seems that even women in their 40s and 50s are repulsed by attention from men their own age and even the mature looking 30something and 20something men, whom they for some reason don't seem to consider "younger men".

So why do women feel this way? Isn't attention from boys that young actually more creepy since sex is usually the only thing on their minds? Attention from a slightly more mature man should be considered more of a compliment, shouldn't it? Is it that these women actually find the younger boys more attractive despite preferring to date men their own age?

???????? Where on earth do you get this information from? Sexual attention from younger men is disgusting

I swear to god this sounds like a trolling post. Considering the posts you have been putting up of late you seem to go out of your way to make global statements about groups of women, which imply you seem to assume it means all of the specific group you're talking about.

Why is this question even relevant, or in need of support? Are you an adolescent male that is interested in a 50 or older woman and does this affect you and how? What is the support question or even relationship question that is relevant to you?

What age is considered older depends on the age of the woman.

If a younger guy stares at me, my first assumption is NOT that they think I am attractive. I think at first that maybe is something on me and then if it isn't that, that I must look terrible. If it's clear they are attracted to me I find that icky, but I'm not likely to view it as threatening.

Men in my age range (late 20s to about 40) if they stare at me I will be disturbed - if they are interested they should say something. If they don't, I might wonder if they are just shy. But if it is prolonged then I will be creeped out and worried over their intentions.

Men who are sognificantly older than me, I will be creeped out. Why? Because I have dealt with that since I was a teen - so when I was a teen those me. Would have been pedophiles if they had done anything. That worry and grossness stays with you. Plus, if they are staring at me it is much more clearly a sexual thing as they are unlikely to want a date. Plus, very few people find it enjoyable to think of their parents having sex, let alone thinking about having sex wth someone old enough to be their parents.

So here is what I am confused about. You say you don't find it threatening if a younger guy is checking you out but you do if the guy is around your age or older. So are you saying that if a 22 year old guy checks you out it is not threatening but if the guy is 29 it is? Why is that? Can you even tell the difference between a 22 year old and a 29 year old usually? Or are you imaging all 22 year olds to look like they are 15?

No not this older woman.

Only really had that happen to me once and I had to be very careful to discourage the boy without shattering his confidence. It was not at all flattering, and my only concern was for his welfare and making sure I did not in any way encourage him.

I think you have misinterpreted what others were saying in that thread. I believe what they meant was they were more tolerant of younger men staring as they had not yet learned the etiquette, and were less tolerant of older men as they should have learned better manners by their age.

Ick. I would NOT want sexual attention from teenage boys. But then, I don't really want sexual attention from any men. I'm very married and not the least bit interested. But honestly, I don't think most women are interested in teenagers and young men.

Oh Shadix, you SO misinterpreted what I said!

What S4 said really is the bottom line. None of this matters!

You get really fixated and overly analytical, and you are not interpreting what people are saying correctly. I think you really do have some sort of processing issue. You really should look into it more with a doctor.

This is craaazy, I can't think of any women my age who are like this at all. Maybe what you meant to do was explore your secret fantasies about it

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Is this all for real?

I don't know any women who like boys/adolescent etc if they do, they better seek help about it. I am 50 and teach high school. I don't want sexual attention from teens. Thats my students. That's sick to even suggest. I am marrying a 50 year old man. But even when I was single I never considered what you said.

I don't want to think it's trolling but it started sounding very wrong to me.

If you have some type of unhealthy obsession with older women desiring teenage boys you might need to seek help about it. This forum is about relationship and communication. What you want to discuss belongs in entirely different place. You also might want to add TRIGER. Discussing sexual relationship between adults and "boys" it is a disturbing topic. You might need to talk to your doctor or t.

You also seem to misunderstand what people say. Overall I do recommend you seek help. Start with your doctor

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I didn't say women necessarily "desire" adolescent boys, I am simply questioning why it seems they don't get upset when an adolescent boy objectifies them sexually but do when a more mature man does it. In the other thread people were going on about how creepy it is when men stare at women, then a woman posted how she was flattered that a 16 year complimented her butt. Why do the rules not apply to younger guys? And don't say they don't know any better, guys 16+ definitely know better than to be inappropriate towards women. It seems to me that society has this unwritten rule that young guys should be given more freedom sexually whereas guys over 26 or so ought to keep it in their pants.

aye, aye

Admins can you close this thread?

Are you looking for a debate or asking a question? (I am referring to your opinions in your last paragraph in addition to your wording in the title).

I was looking for clarification. This is not something to debate because it is a subjective thing.

Well, you wrote a question using leading words. I wondered.

If you simplify it, I will answer...

What I was asking about is why many women in their 30s, 40s and 50s seem to be flattered by sexual attention from adolescent aged guys(teens and early 20s), like for example a guy telling a woman she has a nice butt, but then if a guy their own age or even any guy over 26ish does the same thing, they find it disgustung.

Well, that's really more of a declarative statement also.

If things "seem" a certain way to you, then that is an opinion. Not a question.

If the question is why you have reached the conclusion that you have reached, then I would say that I have no idea because I am not you.

I am sorry. I didn't see the post where you requested it closed.

Apologies.

Everyone has been pointing out that you are misinterpreting others. Whether or not you mean to you consistently misinterpret things. Constantly you twist my words around.

Shadix.

Turn off your tv and put the remote down.

American Pie is not real life.

I think people are being honest with their replies.

Is there a lot of milf out there?

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I am closing this thread at the request of the OP

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