[Someone54]

My dad is an angry type. He yells at a lot of people who annoy him, who disagree with his beliefs. For example, if any person dares to disagree with his political beliefs, he would simply call him a moron, retard... He has no problem yelling those insults at my family in public places, and he uses that vocabulary against my mother all the time.

The thing that bugs me the most is how he treats my family and especially my mother. I kinda feel like he terrorizes her. She is scared to do things that he won't approve. For example, a long time ago there was a family dinner we all had to go to. However, I had a fever and i felt terrible. My mom went to my room, cried and begged me to come along because she was so scared that he would scream at her if I won't go. That was only one of many times that she cried because she was scared of how my dad would react if something won't go his way. He screams at her SO MUCH, it's just not fair.
The other day she didn't manage to do his laundry on time so he just screamed at her for over an hour...

Every time he is angry at my family, he yells stuff that just makes me feel incredibly guilty (like the family dinner thing). I'm sick of tiptoeing all the time, seeing my mom tiptoeing, being scared of saying the wrong thing ALL THE TIME.
Seriously, is there something wrong with me? Does that feeling go away? Because i stared disliking him about 3 years ago and it only got worse...

[Trippin2.0]

Your father is abusive, that's plenty valid reason to dislike him.

[Skeezyks]

Hello Someone54: Well... I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

From what you wrote, it certainly sounds as though you have every reason to be angry. It sounds as though your father is seriously abusive. Personally, I would be very surprised if you were not angry! Will your anger go away? I don't know. My personal experience has been that these sorts of emotions tend to stick with a person. They may fade over time... but they don't go away. So, if you're not seeing a therapist at the present time, you may want to consider doing so at some point in the future in order to process this experience.

PsychCentral is a great place to get information as well as support for mental health issues. There are many knowledgeable & caring members here. The more you post, & reply to other members’ posts, the more a part of the community you will become. Plus there are social groups you can join & chat rooms where you’ll be able to connect with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) Lots of great stuff! So please keep posting!

[~Christina]

Trippin said it all !!!! with out any fluffy stuff.

Sounds like your Mom might benefit from seeing a Therapist and find out if shes willing to live her entire life this way.

Welcome to PC

Trippin is spot on. He's abusive and your feelings are understandable.

On a brighter note,



You'll find this to be a supportive community!

[jimmy rich]

Originally Posted by Someone54

My dad is an angry type. He yells at a lot of people who annoy him, who disagree with his beliefs. For example, if any person dares to disagree with his political beliefs, he would simply call him a moron, retard... He has no problem yelling those insults at my family in public places, and he uses that vocabulary against my mother all the time.

The thing that bugs me the most is how he treats my family and especially my mother. I kinda feel like he terrorizes her. She is scared to do things that he won't approve. For example, a long time ago there was a family dinner we all had to go to. However, I had a fever and i felt terrible. My mom went to my room, cried and begged me to come along because she was so scared that he would scream at her if I won't go. That was only one of many times that she cried because she was scared of how my dad would react if something won't go his way. He screams at her SO MUCH, it's just not fair.
The other day she didn't manage to do his laundry on time so he just screamed at her for over an hour...

Every time he is angry at my family, he yells stuff that just makes me feel incredibly guilty (like the family dinner thing). I'm sick of tiptoeing all the time, seeing my mom tiptoeing, being scared of saying the wrong thing ALL THE TIME.
Seriously, is there something wrong with me? Does that feeling go away? Because i stared disliking him about 3 years ago and it only got worse...

I don't know how old you are. You seem like a teenager but you have to face the ugly fact that there are two powerful adults in your family - the dad and the mom and one of those adults is NOT doing her job (the mom) while the other adult (dad) is being allowed to get away with rotten, inexcusable behavior only because nobody has the GUTS to stand up to him.
This happened in my family and it took me a very long time in therapy to finally realize that my mom's cringing cowardice actually HELPED my dad be so damned mean and insane.
So your problem is two fold. You have an out of control parent (dad) and a cowardly, silent partner who is unwittingly AIDING in his badness. Depending on how old you are, the only solution I can see is for you to turn to outside help such as Child Protective Services or a school counselor to get some help FOR YOUR SELF. Sorry.........