[Deeplyhurt77]

Now ex boyfriend as of a couple days ago. He said he was attracted to me cause he could tell I had issues but saw a light in me. After 2.5 yes, He's given up and my flame won't light. He's tired and I'm bringing him down. Even though he bought me a diamond ring a couple weeks ago. He has many yrs of social work. Felt like he was trying to be my therapist. He would ask:what do you see when you look in the mirror, how do you see yourself into 5yrs, what are your dreams and inspiration, how do you think we'll be like when we are old etc... 1st off I only see flaws when I look in the mirror and can't answer any more questions...so depressed that I right now I can only go day by day...I have too many obstacles to cross. Wish he could love me as I take meds,go to therapy and as I am. He has flaws but I don't get mad and list them all. That's what he does to me...list the many many things I don't do. It's true but so insulting. Don't think I could ever please him. As I am so depressed, he was my light,my life.

[QTNurse]

I feel your pain. I recently got dumped by my boyfriend. I had been knowing him for 10 years. We started dating a year ago. This person knew my ups and downs in relationships and still dated me. He claims that I am a narcissist when I am a love addict and co-dependent. Note, he seemed to like me best when I was lost. Then, when I fell in love, he became distant. You see my love was too much for him. I spent more time trying to make him happy and get his approval than loving myself. I worked too hard. My ex isn't a therapist but a nurse and he thinks he can diagnose me. I'm a nurse too but diagnosing isn't my gig. it is not generally a smart idea for a loved-one to diagnose and try to fix you. It is better to get counsel and advice from outside. You will get a biased assessment. You see people see what they want to see. What if he perceives you wrong. I would suggest a couple therapy for him to not to be your therapist and learn to support you than to fix you.

Its just a thought. He thinks he knows what is "wrong" with you and that gives him to much power to emotionally manipulate later. Seek outside advice and therapy and shut him down.

[Crazy Hitch]

I'm sorry you're going through this