[IrrationalFool]

I think I may have realized why I always fall in love with women who don't love me. I am currently in love with someone who doesn't love me, yet I continue to do things for her and how she behaves is just not right. I think that this is a reflection of the relationship I had with my mother. Here, the person I love is me and I am my mother. I always felt I was a bastard to my mother, I was completely selfish and did not care what I put her through and before she passed away she felt that I did not love her. Regardless of how I was with her she still loved me and spoiled me. This individual I was in love with dragged me through hell while doing everything she needed if possible. Not once did she do anything for me. Now as I am trying to cut her off I realized this reflection. In her mind, am I the parent she never had? I also feel her insecurities made her behave this way, she was selfish and completely indifferent to how I felt. What's the right thing to do?

[Skeezyks]

Hello IrrationalFool: The Skeezyks had a complicated relationship with his parents as well. (It's a long story.) Anyway... relationships certainly can be complex, as it sounds like the one you describe is. Perhaps the best thing to do would be to talk this through with your therapist (if you're seeing one) or seek one out if you're not.

From my perspective, this is sufficiently complicated that it would be difficult to give you much of anything in the way of useful advice here. I don't believe there is any way to know what is going on in your friend's mind, or how she perceives you. However, it doesn't sound as though this relationship is going anywhere. So perhaps bringing it to a conclusion would be for the best.

[IrrationalFool]

Originally Posted by Skeezyks

Hello IrrationalFool: The Skeezyks had a complicated relationship with his parents as well. (It's a long story.) Anyway... relationships certainly can be complex, as it sounds like the one you describe is. Perhaps the best thing to do would be to talk this through with your therapist (if you're seeing one) or seek one out if you're not.

From my perspective, this is sufficiently complicated that it would be difficult to give you much of anything in the way of useful advice here. I don't believe there is any way to know what is going on in your friend's mind, or how she perceives you. However, it doesn't sound as though this relationship is going anywhere. So perhaps bringing it to a conclusion would be for the best.

Thank You.