I have a Traumatic Brain Injury, before I got this injury I was a very independent person and after I got this disability in 2008, I am a very codependent person. I think my girlfriend/Fiancé has had enough of me. She text me telling me that she wanted a break, I'm not stupid a break in our relationship is the step before she breaks up with me forever. I asked her to call me and when she did she said she still love me and she will still wear her engagement ring but she needed a break from me.

We are supposedly take a break.for the month of September, I can't help but wonder if she has found someone new already and is going to tell me some time this month that she found someone new and break up with me. I understand that I'm not all she wants but I will make myself pay for not being her everything. So I guess she wins no matter what she decides to do 😖

[Love Understanding]

You are making it sound like She's a Mirror, and you can only See Yourself in Her!
Maybe it is a good time to improve the way you Feel and look at Yourself?
Start a 30 day self improvement program, then if She is not Happy with You;
You will feel better about Yourself!

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[Bluemoonbrowneyes]

Hang in there buddy. The not knowing what's going to happen will keep you stressed out. I like person's advice try working on you maybe ask her what one big issue is and focus on that. Good luck

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[ComfortablyNumb5]

"I understand that I'm not all she wants but I will make myself pay for not being her everything".

That part worries me. Don't do anything to make yourself "pay for it". This is both your problems not just yours. If I were you I'd consider counseling for the both of you and get down to the bottom of this. And the thoughts of her finding someone else is a rational feeling I believe. I would probably think the same. But from lack of detail in your story, she probably hasn't found anyone. I to have a problem with codependency so I imagine this separation will be hard for you. During your break you should do exactly that, a break. Don't overbear her with texts or calls. Just let her have her time and then she can communicate that with you after the separation. You're going to be lonely I'll tell you that. Keep posting here if it helps.

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[healingme4me]

The fact that she says she loves you and still wants to wear the ring, displays a desire to remain as is.

You mentioned having TBI and codependency, is it possible there's too much emeshment on your part? Were you both arguing? Maybe some couples counseling or if you both attend church, look into the programs offered for couples?

I'm the type of woman that can need a little personal space, hence this is the perspective that I'm reading from. I might become backlogged with day to day tasks when I overinvolve myself with friends needs to vent. Or might discover that I am missing out on me time, even just online like this or reading a book or the news or staying in touch with friends. Plus I have kids so it's easy to feel flustered and pulled in too many directions. Space becomes needed. Just tossing this perspective for space in here.