Father-daughter relationship issue

For as long as I can remember vividly, I've felt uncomfortable in the presence of my father. The reason for this is that he displays his affection in a manner that violates majorly my personal space. I do not remember having this issue as a younger child (I'm presently 15) but then again I do not have memories of this kind of behavior at the time.

About 2 years ago he used to always place his hand on my thigh when he was picking me up from school. I never associated his actions to anything sexual, but I felt uncomfortable with the action as it happened every single day and I moved my thigh away. It took him about 6 months to stop, but we never adressed the issue and I am not sure whether he realised I didn't like it or whether it was subconcious, as he is very stubborn and has never displayed the same reaction to incidents.

Besides that, he does multiple other weird things, I remember particularly two incidents of him whispering in my ear in a weird way. Once, I was having breakfast with both my parents and suddenly he just approaches my ear, extremely closely and asks: "Does this make you nervous?" My reaction was to laugh in attempt to forget what just happened. The other event was in the elevator of a mall, the door was closing and I stood next to him and suddenly he pulled me towards him, huggind me from the back and whispered that same way "Now you can't escape." My reaction was the exact same, but he never stopped so I slowly started distancing myself from him. I could've told him but he may believe I think that his actions are sexual and be extremely offended so I just distanced myself from him and most of it slowly stopped. Yet a few weeks back, I was sitting at a chair at a big family party, and he approached me suddenly from about 50m away from me and then kissed my cheek for way more time that would leave me confortable. I certainly have no problem with him kissing my cheek but just the manner that he did it leaves me unsettled. Before he placed the kiss I moved my head sharply away and he still kissed my cheek, he clearly realises I hate his manner of showing affection but he repeatedly does it in this same manner and I react every time by brushing him away and he doesn't change.

In terms of personality, I can't talk once with him without being bombarded with weird questions or unecessary discussions due to his stubborness. Once I had made some party dresses (bodycons) and he asked me to try them out at night. I denied simply because I had tried those dresses so many times and I didn't want to have to put them all on again at night. He reacted angrily and said "You can't even try dresses on for your dad." He also criticizes my hobbies and personality, saying that I should leave my room more and generating an argument every day, yet he doesn't work and stays sitting in the sofa all day.

About a year ago he addressed the distancing, a discussion in which he cried and said that I barely talk to him. I stated that he never gave me space and he always fired questions, but he never got the message as we have this same discussion with the same arguments from both sides every few months for the past year. Last time, I said I wouldn't have the discussion again since I explained exactly what I need him to change. What most disturbs me is that after every discussion he does a ton more of awkward physical things, and I believe that the discussions have become an excuse for him to do them for a while. It has come to a point that when I hear that he has arrived at home I turn off my bedroom lights for him to think I'm asleep and I can't go an hour of the day thinking of how trapped I feel, yet my mother has barely any knowledge, except for the fact that I am way closer to her.

I am unsure what to do, those discussions stress me to a point where my major thought every day is this. I do not know whether I should inform my mother but I believe it is too much and her reaction would be the same as my Dad's, feeling insulted (Although I would never believe that his actions are sexual at all). I have informed a friend and just like me, she believes that even if I inform him of the physical issue nothing will change and that I should wait until college as I will move to anther country to study and therefore fully avoid him. Any advices?

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Just reading that makes me feel creepy. I'm sorry to say this but I think your father is pushing boundaries to see how far he can get. I don't think you should worry about hurting his feelings. I think you need to take a firm stand against this type of behavior. This is not a healthy way for a father to treat his daughter. The getting angry because you wouldn't try on the dresses for him is extremely creepy! This is not normal behavior for a father. His crying because you distance yourself from him is manipulation! You need to sit down with your mother and tell her every single thing that he has done and how it makes you feel. If she refuses to see that there is an issue then you need to tell someone else, a counselor at school, another family member, someone who will listen. I was sexually abused and it started off as small comments or gestures. Little by little it turned into sexual abuse. Please protect yourself. Reading about what you are going through with your father seems all too familiar to me. If your gut tells you his behaviours are not right then trust your gut! I know you think if you just distance yourself and ignore his behaviours that everything will be okay and you will move off to college and it'll all be fine. That's not true! You need to get help. Please do!

Hello,
I'm a Father, who has a Teenager Daughter!
I'm hoping he is Thinking that this is His way of Dad Jokes?
Its creepy, and your Mother should explain it to Him!
Your Dad should be setting the Example of what is Except able behavior for Men.
Maybe your Mother, has no problem with this and needs to understand, that you do!
Your Parents #1 Responsibility is To Protect and Love you!