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I know what you mean as I have encountered a hand of ppl in my life that fit your description. |
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I am not sure what you are referencing when you say "you". If I had an issue personally with someone I would address it directly as that would be one of my values. Passive Aggressive behavior, like Splitting for example, is not conducive to a healthy interpersonal relationship Getting back to the topic at hand. IMO there are many options when faced with a person who uses the cover of a boundary to mask PD symptoms. I have listed a few above and will post a few articles about this issue which I found helpful when faced with this issue. Last edited by snarkydaddy; Sep 09, 2016 at 01:00 PM.. |
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Snarky, can you give us a specific example. I think I might understand what you mean by using the word "boundary" as an excuse for PD behavior, but it would be helpful to give a specific example.
I think boundaries are important, but I do think some people may use them to avoid things they are uncomfortable with. Seesaw __________________ What if I fall? Oh, my dear, but what if you fly? Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia. Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less... |
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Not all children are taught to have boundaries. Very profound post! |
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I can see what you’re saying here. Ultimately a person has to act within their own core values, which means they have to know them and define them. If not then there is trouble. So ppl are too immature to be in relationships, myself included, because they have adult child issues and were never fully allowed to grow up. Like they were given responsibility but that’s it. |
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This could also be adult child or ptsd issues. |
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I think what you’re calling pd behavior could be adult child behavior or ptsd behavior stemming from being triggered or abandoned . |
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If someone is suffering from adult child issues it’s not the same thing as personality disorder issues. If a person is having adult child issues they really do need to be reassured and comforted like a small child. |
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If someone is using boundaries as a mask, there is not much you can do about it on your end, but to hope and pray that he or she can overcome his/ her issues someday. (Especially if the people you are writing about happens to be those whom you care about).
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Yes and its really easy to point fingers at the other person and say they are unhealthy and disturbed and we are healthy and peaceful. I think I've learned my lesson. Its not nice being on the receiving end of being devalued and discarded. That's why family members should never be therapists, they can't be objective. As a professional code they should refuse to treat a family member. A good therapist will always put the focus back on the person instead of getting them to talk about the other person.
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sorry this is a very old post it should be closed. not necro'd
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Wow, way to bump a post from two years ago!
__________________ What if I fall? Oh, my dear, but what if you fly? Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia. Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less... |
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