[matt07]

Everyone at home, not much social communication really.

Not always but many times its just awkard, stressful and heavy.

I can cut the tension with a .

can't stand it, I can't stay at home for periods too long when there's nothing that needs to physically get done.

like awkward coworkers

[Fearfool]

We just mind our own most of the time, sometimes discuss financial obligations, plan monthly activities, make stupid jokes, then on our own again. It could be better emotionaly but meh it would be too weird to start now.

[matt07]

U guys comfortable in each other's silence?

[TishaBuv]

I wonder if the cause of the disconnect is the electronics. Turn off the TV and computers and you'll all start talking to each other.

[matt07]

The electronics gives us something to do. Otherwise...

[TishaBuv]

That's right. I remember we had a power outage and my kids were so freaked out that there were no electronics and we actually had to play with our kids, gasp!

[killingjoke]

With my parents its similar...we can have a laugh and all, but as soon as it gets serious I just cant. I cant speak about myself, my life outside the house (i.e school and with my friends) or my opinions/feelings towards anything . Sometimes i think this stresses them (especially my mum) and she can get impatient and angry with me for not being able to answer her questions etc...this really doesnt help me to open up to her either...it can all get very awkward.
I also cannot wait to leave home for uni

I agree that electronics is the downfall of proper communication.

[xraychick01]

My mother and step dad (I only saw my biological dad every other weekend) never ever expressed emotions to each other or to me. We hardly ever talked...about anything. Everyone pretty much minded their own business. Looking back on it it was lonely growing up there. To this day we aren't close. Hardly talk except via email and we live literally less than 5 minutes away from each other. It's sad. I think it's contributed to a lot of the issues I face today...inability to express me feelings/emotions, lack of communication skills, those types of things.

I have noticed at family get togethers that my brother (dad to 6 teenagers and older) passes a basket around into which everyone places their cell phones). What a fantastic idea! Everyone actually does things like play cards and converse with one another. Heck, we even all crawl around on the floor and still play Lego at my dad's house.

This wasn't a problem when my kids were still at home. I didn't allow them to have cellphones to begin with. They were all heavily into sports and other extracurricular acitivities and I expected everyone to have a job by the age of 14. When we did get together, there were no distractions to communication.

[ALC1211]

I just moved back in with my parents after a bad break up, im 49 years old, and its really a nightmare, all my life growing up my mom was physically, mentally and emotionally abusive, and I still hold so much resentment towards her for that, and being back here living with them after being on my own for 23 years, Im realizing how much resentment I really have, but we have no conversations, my mom only wants to talk about this and that person that we knew when I was in high school and that lived here back 25 years ago that most I cant remember, have no idea who they are or could care less who they are... I dont know who these people in this town are, but thats all she wants to talk about...

I have a niece and nephew that I had never met until I moved back here because my brother and sister in law I hadnt talked to them in 17 years..so I dont know them, I understand that are moms grandchildren but she will sit for hours and talk and talk and talk to me about them if I will listen, and talk about the same things over and over and over... telling the same stories about them, and you would think they **** glitter.....and I get tired of hearing the same stuff over and over again...so pretty much dont have anything to talk to her about... so I stay in my room all day and watch tv or surf the internet...So I dont have to sit and act like I am interested in what she is talking about.

[cusack10]

Originally Posted by xraychick01

My mother and step dad (I only saw my biological dad every other weekend) never ever expressed emotions to each other or to me. We hardly ever talked...about anything. Everyone pretty much minded their own business. Looking back on it it was lonely growing up there. To this day we aren't close. Hardly talk except via email and we live literally less than 5 minutes away from each other. It's sad. I think it's contributed to a lot of the issues I face today...inability to express me feelings/emotions, lack of communication skills, those types of things.

yeah, hugs. communition skills, i relate them to formed basic skill to accomplish a thing, meaning already formed and undisturbable, and when tackle a situation or a bad thing, as what to expect in communications, you got ground to retreat to and have your space to stay defense, you got spaces to buffer or detour, in this way, you made a cope done. (sry for bad english.).

no not really.

if you could call out family, a " family", it was everyone for themselves- if someone in the family had a problem (medical or otherwise), it was down to that person alone to support themselves and do something about it

rest of the family didn't care- so now I hate using the word family to describe how i grew up because it was more like a group of un connected and emotionless people.

it's threads like this that make me glad I no longer live with them or know of them

[cusack10]

Originally Posted by shattered sanity

no not really.

if you could call out family, a " family", it was everyone for themselves- if someone in the family had a problem (medical or otherwise), it was down to that person alone to support themselves and do something about it

rest of the family didn't care- so now I hate using the word family to describe how i grew up because it was more like a group of un connected and emotionless people.

it's threads like this that make me glad I no longer live with them or know of them

com'on, yes, you got strong bad emotions towards family, a lot of us do and you suvived through it, but where are you come from? after you born, you have to stay with them for a distiguished long period of time and the nowadays society don't give a hand if you are abused by it, meaning you have to cope it, sure, you made it through anyhow, but it is by your luck and personal assets mostly, the problem is still there for us to solve. ty.
and i got an idea.