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Old Oct 04, 2016, 02:49 PM
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So, I have this friend. I randomly said hey man what's up? The other day. We haven't spoken since last December. I was wanting to see how he was doing. He said "Pretty good. But I'm ticked at you, because you haven't texted me in a long time." I have tried, but never got any responses from him. The most recently(before I texted him today) was back in July but he hasn't responded since then. Why would that make him mad? He has autism(spelling?) could that be the reason he gets mad? Not trying to he rude, I know for a fact my depression can make me feel things, sometimes and I was just wondering if he could be feeling a way that I would not understand. I also tried texting him in March and May too but no responses. So I just stopped for a while. If you were my friend, would that make you mad too?
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Old Oct 04, 2016, 07:37 PM
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Well... the Skeezyks doesn't really know a lot about the specifics of autism... or any other mental health issue either, really. So I can't speak to whether or not how your friend is acting is related to being autistic. But my personal opinion is, it is always tenuous territory when we begin trying to analyze what might be going on in someone else's mind. I pretty-much just take people at face value. And if I don't like what I see, I move on.

Personally, it seems to me, if your friend hasn't responded to your texts, then he has no reason to berate you for not continuing to text him. I have an internet friend... my only "friend", so to speak, in the whole wide world. Sometimes I don't hear from him for days or a week or more. I don't concern myself with it. If I hear from him... fine. If I don't... I don't. If I never heard from him again... that's the way it goes... & vice versa. I'd wonder what happened to him. I'm certain he'd wonder what happened to me if I disappeared unexpectedly. But neither of us would lose any sleep over it. There are more important things to worry about. If I were your friend, TheBoredOne, I would not be mad.
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Old Oct 05, 2016, 02:36 AM
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Well, unfortunately he seems to think he didn't get the texts. Hopefully he got a clearer picture when you told him that you had indeed text him.
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Old Oct 05, 2016, 10:52 AM
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Perhaps call him in person instead of texting?
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Old Oct 05, 2016, 11:38 AM
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So, I have this friend. I randomly said hey man what's up? The other day. We haven't spoken since last December. I was wanting to see how he was doing. He said "Pretty good. But I'm ticked at you, because you haven't texted me in a long time." I have tried, but never got any responses from him. The most recently(before I texted him today) was back in July but he hasn't responded since then. Why would that make him mad? He has autism(spelling?) could that be the reason he gets mad? Not trying to he rude, I know for a fact my depression can make me feel things, sometimes and I was just wondering if he could be feeling a way that I would not understand. I also tried texting him in March and May too but no responses. So I just stopped for a while. If you were my friend, would that make you mad too?
It seems to be pretty straight forward. he said exactly why he was ticked off. I'm not sure I understand why you're asking why he got mad when he told you?

So here is what you know: he is ticked off because you didn't text for a long time.

You say you tried and didn't get any response.

So herein lies the problem.

A difference in perspective and interpretation of the same situation. You see someone that stopped replying to you so you probably stopped trying. He sees just that you stopped texting. So the solution to the problem is to reconcile the differences here. If you haven't already you need to voice your viewpoint in how you did try to text more than a few times and received no response. If you have not done this, keep in mind the way to do this is non-confrontationally. Without accusing him or blaming him for the situation, explain that at the point when you were not receiving replies, that you thought he wasn't interested in keeping up. Again, put it out there that you're not blaming him but that this is how you saw it at the time, and don't be above reproach here.

Let him reply to that and find out why he wasn't replying at the time, I'm sure there's an explanation.

I see this as a completely resolvable situation. Please try to communicate and be open to the idea that you could be wrong. Not saying you are to blame, just saying that it's likely that you both contributed to the falling out.

Good luck!
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Old Oct 05, 2016, 12:14 PM
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Not really. Maybe he didn't see the text or his autism got in the way. I wouldn't put too much thought into it on why he didn't reply. His autism might explain it
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Old Oct 05, 2016, 12:55 PM
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Call him, actually use the phone.
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Old Oct 05, 2016, 12:56 PM
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Not really. Maybe he didn't see the text or his autism got in the way. I wouldn't put too much thought into it on why he didn't reply. His autism might explain it
how would his autism have anything to do with not replying ot texts?

And actually why he didn't reply would clarify things between them as friends. I don't think he should be grilled for it but finding out what happened when they had the falling out could help to restore the friendship.
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Old Oct 05, 2016, 12:59 PM
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Call him, actually use the phone.
I'm still not sure as to how calling on the phone is any more legitimate than text or writing?
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