[Tshark]

Now, i'm going to start working at Kings Dominion and i'm going to get paid a maximum of $500-$530 every 2 weeks. But there's a problem with that. See, my mother suggested that i work there. Now, i took her suggestion and i'm going to start during the summer. Well you see, my mother also said if i do work there that i have to give her at least $100 every month, not including the fact that i have to get school clothes, shoes, and other necessary things. I have no problem giving her $100 a month. But the only problem is; she's going to ask for additional money. I have no car, or anyone who'll probably take me to my job without asking for money. My mom's the type of person who will keep asking for more and more money until i'm dried all the way out. She also will ask for gas money, and if i were to say no she'll get mad and tell me, "well find a way there then." Another thing, she gets help from my step dad. He gives her $1,000 a month. I think it's unfair for her to get money from me and i'm only 15, i mean i have no problem with giving it to her but i think it's not right giving the fact that she know's what i'm trying to do when i get that money. I specifically told her when i get enough money i'm going to start a little business where i'm going to be selling electronics, and i'm going to build PC'S and sell them on this website. Which will be pretty expensive as the parts to build a pc/gaming pc are costly. What should i do? I'm really confused and if i were to try and talk to her she'll do nothing but yell and scream at me then call her family members and tell them what i did with a little twist by adding lies and other extra stuff that i didn't do and they'll do nothing but lecture me or yell at me for being mean to my mother. I honestly don't know what to do. Can someone give me some advice?

[Crazy Hitch]

Well you're a minor and you're your mother's dependant. The fact that you're working and having to pay your own way at the age of 15 ... just wow.

Is there an adult that you trust that can mediate? Can your stepdad speak to her on your behalf?

[Lauliza]

Generally speaking it is your mothers job to provide for you since you are only 15. Using your own money for entertainment and other things is fine but what she is doing now is just wrong. Do you have an adult you can trust that you can talk to - maybe a family member, teacher or counselor?

[MickeyCheeky]

That doesn't sound good at all :/ I'm sorry Are there any other adults you can talk to about this? Family members? Teachers?

[cluelessgal]

Hey TShark,

Welcome to Psychcentral!

I'm sorry you are in this position, this sounds so, so tough!

This is not right AT ALL . You are only 15, you are to be taken care of. You are not at an age where you have to work to fulfill your own needs....leave alone paying your mother from what you earn.

Is your mother incapable of going to work herself? If yes, then is there any other adult who can care for her financially - your mom's siblings, ex husbands, her parents. If she is capable of working herself or is working, then you have no business giving her any money....not 100$....not 1$.

Say a strict "NO" to her request. Don't enable her by giving her what she's demanding as a right. Let her scream, call her friends or whatever. She is wrong in demanding a pie of your hard earned money.Keep what you earn for yourself. It would be great if you can talk to your school counselor about it....or if you don't have one, get therapy for yourself. Instead of giving that money to your mom, get therapy for yourself.

Your mother needs help. Don't enable her by giving in....she'd NEVER work on herself then.

Do reach out...to us. You'll get all the support you need here.