My family will be in town for three weeks. They will want to spend every day with me.

I love my family like a good daughter is supposed to and they are older and they are ill....

So there's the guilt and self-hatred for wanting time to myself.

If you have depression, you know how it is...

Those of you who have lost parents, I am sorry. And I get it. I really do.

But it's so stressful for me to be with them ALL OF THE TIME.

[s4ndm4n2006]

it's understandable. Even with those we love the most, being with them all times of the day and/or an entire holiday can be trying. Heck husbands and wives in some cases if they are both home all the time for long periods will get tired of being around each other all the time.

There is nothing wrong with the way you feel about this and it's understandable. I'm sorry I don't have a solution for you but I'm not sure if you were just venting or had a question.

Thanks s4nd....

I guess I just want some Karmic cheering of some sort.

[Yours_Truly]

It's very understandable and I don't think you should feel guilty at all.

Maybe you could think of household errands that you have to run & while your at it stop off & have a cup of coffee or something to take some time for yourself & have a little breathing room. Just intersperse little outings throughout the 3 weeks so you can take a little break.

[hvert]

Three weeks????? Three days is hard enough! Good luck, I find it hard also - I don't want to be around them and feel guilty for that and get crap for limiting my exposure.

[Bill3]

It sounds like the guilt and self-hatred are just crushing. I am so sorry for your pain.



When you feel such guilt and/or self-hatred, what do you find might possibly help you feel a bit better?

(((((sophiesmom)))))

Thanks everyone!

Bill3, I don't know how to feel better. I find that guilt is one of those things that snowballs....I feel guilty for actually indulging in guilt

They both know that they don't have much longer....but rather than enjoy, they indulge in self-pity. For example, we remarked on how nice the Thanksgiving day parade was and my dad simply started talking about a recent terrorist threat and an attack in another country...And that's a pretty normal example of his behavior.

My mom is not well, but has recently been diagnosed with depression. I haven't told any of my family about my own mental problems, but she has to tell everyone hers. She has told me three times already (I know she forgets...) She likes to talk about what's wrong with her for pity. And that makes me angry because I am alone in my problems (with the exception of my husband)...

I suppose I will do the best I can under the circumstances.
It's really bringing me down further, though....

Thank you for listening to my rant.

[Bill3]

(((((sophiesmom)))))

[~Christina]

(((((( hugs )))))

I don't really have much advice other than make time for yourself daily to get the hell away from them and do what you want for a while....

I am so sorry that you're in this lousy situation.