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Dec 07, 2016, 08:46 PM
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So there's a boy... he and I are in college together but different degree programs so we don't run into each other pretty much ever. But so for my job on campus, I sometimes will present on tech stuff like excel, how to edit videos, that kind of thing. And he happened to be at a presentation and he was really attractive and seemed funny and nice (we talked briefly as I went around helping people with exercises). Fast forward a few weeks and he friend requested me on facebook and messaged me for a little while just about questions about the presentation/tech stuff.
Since then we haven't talked. It says he's single on facebook, but I traditionally do the thing of waiting for the guy to make the first move because, well, who isn't scared of rejection?! Should I ask him out?! Is that too forward and weird? |
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#2
Dec 07, 2016, 09:20 PM
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You might try just sending a note on FB to say you have been thinking about him a bit and have been wondering how things are coming along with the presentation/tech stuff. Whether or not he picks up on that might be an indicator related to any personal interest he might or might not have.
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Dec 07, 2016, 09:31 PM
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It does sound like he might be interested, as he did friend you on FB. However, I know very little about these things. I'm notoriously dense when a guy is acting all subtle around me, dropping vague hints that go right over my head. It could be that he hasn't asked you out directly because he's also afraid of rejection.
I would try to act casual, and not to eager. It's easy to get caught up in being overly attached to someone you hardly know due to how attracted you are to them. At least, that's how it is for me. It might be worth waiting a bit more, depending on how often you two chat. I feel that, though I could be totally off on this, he's testing the proverbial waters right now. A good indicator of interest is if he initiates the conversation regularly, and how he does so. If you're impatient, like I am, you COULD ask him to coffee someplace nearby for the both of you. I mean, it's just coffee, and not an actual dinner date. Lots of friends grab coffee together. It's also not weird for the girl to do the asking. It's the 21st Century after all. Some guys are notoriously shy and need a bit of a nudge. Besides, if he declines the offer, it doesn't necessarily mean the end of the world. It might hurt and you'll feel kind of...meh, about dating for a bit, but at least the planet itself didn't blow up to smithereens.
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#4
Dec 07, 2016, 10:03 PM
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The worst he could say is 'no'.
If you had someplace to go and wanted to bring a date like to a party or show, that would be a good excuse to ask him to go with you.
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Dec 07, 2016, 10:42 PM
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Dec 07, 2016, 10:57 PM
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Good Luck!
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#7
Dec 07, 2016, 11:19 PM
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Good luck to you.
Please make sure that you're emotionally in a position to deal with whatever happens. I only mention this because you're new here (hi!) and haven't posted extensively about how fragile you are...So I'm going to assume that you might be, just in case. We have to look out for each other. I hope this gets to be nothing but roses for you
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Dec 08, 2016, 01:26 AM
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#9
Dec 08, 2016, 06:37 AM
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Yes. Yes, you should ask him out if you are interested.
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#10
Dec 08, 2016, 05:50 PM
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Find something on his facebook page and ask him about it.
DO NOT talk about school, you have already done that. You want to date this guy, not do homework together. If he responds positively, suggest meeting for coffee...... Even if he says "no" it will free you up to ask out someone else. |
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#11
Dec 09, 2016, 02:18 AM
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Go for it!!!
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