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Dec 27, 2016, 10:43 AM
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Recently I saw a casual friend up by where I used to attend college. We chatted for a bit and I was shocked by something she had done that basically no one else has ever done to me. She admitted her wrongdoings towards me from a few years back. She admitted she treated me like crap, that she was a fake friend because she was trying to fit in by pretending to be someone she wasn't, and overall just being nasty.
I already knew she did that stuff and at that time when I talked to her about it, she didn't give a crap. Acted like it was no big deal. But now she admitted that she had done harm and that she really does like me as a friend. No one else has ever done that to me before, so I was actually thrilled she actually admitted it and couldn't believe someone did that for the first time to me. Now usually when someone has done many things wrong towards me such as using me or treating me like crap, I cut them out for good. There is no going back, I am done with that person. And I sort of did it to this one friend, but not completely since I like to give people chances at times. Since she admitted her wrongdoings, would you think that is enough to warrent another chance? Now I don't plan on getting too close to her. The way she is and how bad she is at maintaining contact makes it impossible to be close to her. And that's fine. But I have considered giving her another shot at a friendship. We have maintained contact, but I really didn't see her as a true friend. I don't consider her a close friend still, but I am willing to give another chance. Since no one else has ever done that and usually people are afraid to admit their wrongdoings, it makes me wonder if she really does value me as a friend now. Maybe she didn't then but she could have learned. What do you guys think? Should I give her another chance? Has anyone ever admitted wrongdoings to you? Just curious. |
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Dec 27, 2016, 10:53 AM
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Who knows what this person has been through. It may be part of her healing process to admit wrong doings. It does happen. If she wants to be friends again, it's worth the risk. I would be cautious though.
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Dec 27, 2016, 11:13 AM
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Dec 27, 2016, 11:27 AM
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People grow up. People go through experiences that change perspective.
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