[FallenAngel454]

Hi everyone, I've been online dating a guy for 5 1/2 and everything has been going good. The problem is I kinda had a mini affair with this other guy for about a week and my boyfriend found out.

At first, he dumped me and was very hurt/upset but he later forgave me the same day and took me back. Fast forward to now. Yesterday my boyfriend posted an Instagram selfie and I liked it and wrote a comment.

I was scrolling through the other likers and I found that guys Instagram, the one I cheated with. He liked my boyfriend's photo. This guy is also friends with my one ex and I kinda had an affair with my ex too but my bf never found out about that.

My ex and I parted ways in October. We only like messed around once. I am afraid that my ex has somehow told this guy and he will tell my boyfriend about that other mishap. I thought for sure that my boyfriend blocked this guy, I know I blocked him.

But he is following him too. I know he isn't cheating with him because he has me as his boyfriend all over social media. However I am just worried about this. So could I just be overreacting over him liking his picture? Or could they actually be friends? Thanks for your help!

[MickeyCheeky]

It seems live you've had a tad toomany affairs.. oh, well, I don't think something's actually up, but if he does find out, I think the best option is just trying to be honest, I guess. Denying the obvious will only make it worse.

[Crazy Hitch]

I question with all of these affairs how ready you truly are to be in a comitted relationship.

I'm not suprised you're having to be so paranoid now about every sign you see wondering if he will find out.

Could you be overreacting?

Well if the shoe fits ...

[Lost_in_the_woods]

I agree with ^^above posters. I'm sorry but you don't seem to be as sincerely upset about your past affairs or your partner's feelings. It seems that you are most worried about getting caught...which implies that your true concern is how him finding out will effect you. There is no room for this kind of selfishness in a relationship. Come clean and face the music..or cut him lose and be single if you want to sleep around. I think you need to grow up a bit more and do some soul searching about your values before being in a committed relationship. I don't know how old you are..but your emotional maturity seems to be young... which to me says..you are probably young as well. So I think it might be time to let this guy go..be alone and work on getting to know you...then who knows what the future holds?..I'm sure once you figure out what you truly want you will find it.
And for some people that is not always monogamy..but there are others out there who are open to that lifestyle..most important is that whatever you decide..keep it above board!..secrets don't work in any relationship worth having.
-LITW

I think you should step away from technology and get to know people face to face, in real life.

[divine1966]

Since you don't know them in real life then honestly they are neither bfs nor lovers nor exes etc they are just people you flirt online. At age 16 you need to be careful who you are talking to. Are these people adults or your age?

[FallenAngel454]

Originally Posted by divine1966

Since you don't know them in real life then honestly they are neither bfs nor lovers nor exes etc they are just people you flirt online. At age 16 you need to be careful who you are talking to. Are these people adults or your age?

They're all my age. I'm very careful and I always make sure I Skype with people I meet so I know they're not catfishes. So far I've only ran into one catfish a long time ago. I mean relationships can be real online if the feelings between each other are genuine.

As long as your emotions are with them and theirs with yours, it is a relationship. But if you give your emotional time to someone else while you're with them then I consider that cheating. I'm not very proud of my cheating.

I just confessed to my boyfriend and he wasn't even mad. I'm still shocked at his reaction. He was jealous because I went to them instead of him but he didn't get rid of me thankfully. I was so worried about that!!

I do consider them exes because I was emotionally intimate with them and now that I'm not anymore, they're ex partners. Even though there's no physical touch, emotions are very real.

[Artchic528]

Originally Posted by FallenAngel454

They're all my age. I'm very careful and I always make sure I Skype with people I meet so I know they're not catfishes. So far I've only ran into one catfish a long time ago. I mean relationships can be real online if the feelings between each other are genuine.

As long as your emotions are with them and theirs with yours, it is a relationship. But if you give your emotional time to someone else while you're with them then I consider that cheating. I'm not very proud of my cheating.

I just confessed to my boyfriend and he wasn't even mad. I'm still shocked at his reaction. He was jealous because I went to them instead of him but he didn't get rid of me thankfully. I was so worried about that!!

I do consider them exes because I was emotionally intimate with them and now that I'm not anymore, they're ex partners. Even though there's no physical touch, emotions are very real.

I second the whole "if you haven't met in real life, it's not a genuine relationship" idea. They could be anyone.

Also, you're clearly a minor who has a lot of growing up and maturing to do. Date people from your school or neighborhood or city/town. Get off the web because you're doing dangerous things right now as a vulnerable minor online.

If you're only 16 and you met the catfish a long time ago, were you being catfished at the age of 8? *puzzled*

[Molinit]

Oh for....are you kidding me? This is all online and not even real?

[divine1966]

No dear, what you described isn't a realtionship or love at all. It's being lonely and infatuated with strangers (which is quite normal in your age but is dangerous and not fulfilling in a long run). I hope you talk to your guidance counselor at school/therapist/family about issues that are concerning etc

[FallenAngel454]

Originally Posted by divine1966

No dear, what you described isn't a realtionship or love at all. It's being lonely and infatuated with strangers (which is quite normal in your age but is dangerous and not fulfilling in a long run). I hope you talk to your guidance counselor at school/therapist/family about issues that are concerning etc

I have talked to my family about this and they don't mind it, as long as I'm careful and know who I'm dealing with. I've met his sister and his family knows about me too.

He and I also exchange gifts on special occasions. I gave him a teddy bear that he cuddles at night when I'm not around. I'm homeschooled, graduated HS already and I've tried to find someone nearby to date but nobody peaks my interest here.

[FallenAngel454]

Originally Posted by GoldenWaves

If you're only 16 and you met the catfish a long time ago, were you being catfished at the age of 8? *puzzled*

I started online dating when I was 15 so I met my catfish in 2015. I'm turning 17 in June of this year.

[divine1966]

So you graduated high school at 16? It's a big accomplishment!. So what's next on the agenda? More education? Work? What do you do all day besides talking online?

At some point just staying home talking to strangers online isn't going to be enough to fill up your life and give you sense of reward.

Originally Posted by FallenAngel454

I started online dating when I was 15 so I met my catfish in 2015. I'm turning 17 in June of this year.

My point was that it wasn't really all that long ago....

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by GoldenWaves

My point was that it wasn't really all that long ago....

I think at young age a year ago feels like long ago. Kind of like when little kids say "long ago, when I was little" lol

[~Christina]

Originally Posted by FallenAngel454

I have talked to my family about this and they don't mind it, as long as I'm careful and know who I'm dealing with. I've met his sister and his family knows about me too.

He and I also exchange gifts on special occasions. I gave him a teddy bear that he cuddles at night when I'm not around. I'm homeschooled, graduated HS already and I've tried to find someone nearby to date but nobody peaks my interest here.

Why did you meet his sister and not him?

[FallenAngel454]

Originally Posted by ~Christina

Why did you meet his sister and not him?

Well not meet as in irl, but she was in one of my Skype calls with him. She's a pretty nice girl. Very fun personality and she's extremely close with him.

[FallenAngel454]

Originally Posted by divine1966

I think at young age a year ago feels like long ago. Kind of like when little kids say "long ago, when I was little" lol

It sure does lol. 2015 seems like 10 years ago when it was only like 2 years.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by FallenAngel454

Well not meet as in irl, but she was in one of my Skype calls with him. She's a pretty nice girl. Very fun personality and she's extremely close with him.

You talked on Skype. You haven't actually met

Do you live in a rural area or small town? If so, I get it. Its hard to meet people in a rural area. If you live in a more populated area, I say get out of the house and get involved in activities where you will meet people.

Can I ask if you've ever met anyone in person that you first "met" online?