[FeelingHopeful]

Do writing letters help, I had a very close friend in my life wwho distanced himself and I'm wondering what went wrong , he struggles with communication stuff upfront so maybe a letter would be more comfortable., I'm really struggling .

[Hobbit House]

I think it's usually easier to put thoughts and emotions into writing. I think it's just easier to express feelings that way... at least for me.

I am a prolific letter writer myself (I actually think it is an addiction - so too is collecting pens and stationery).

I admit, I don't get a lot of replies - except when I stop writing. It seems many of who I write to find exciting the act of receiving mail. The act of not returning correspondence seems more to be the fact that many people have lost the 'art' of writing than having no interest in doing so.

I think writing to someone draws them closer.

I say go ahead and do so but don't take it personally if you get no reply.

[TishaBuv]

All communication is good. Letters are nice. Maybe it will help build a bridge.

[s4ndm4n2006]

Originally Posted by FeelingHopeful

Do writing letters help, I had a very close friend in my life wwho distanced himself and I'm wondering what went wrong , he struggles with communication stuff upfront so maybe a letter would be more comfortable., I'm really struggling .

I think so. Even in cases that the letters don't get sent to the person in question it can help us to work through thoughts and feelings ourselves. In cases where it is sent to the other person, its a great way to be able to edit out thoughts, and be more rational about what you are trying to say. Emotions are a thing of the moment and when we try to talk to someone live and face to face, since emotions are of the moment, They can get in the way of being objective and rational in our conversation. While emailing or writing a letter we can slowly work through the emotional moments, get it out and if we find that it's too emotionally charged, edit it out after the fact. This cannot happen in real time conversation as what we say in emotional moments remains forever "out there".

So if it's something that is delicate and sensitive, yes, I think writing a letter could be a great way to deal with it.

[Erebos]

JaF306, me too! Prolific scribbled,and collector of stationary.
Letters agree good because you can go over them and make sure you can't be misinterpreted. Also gives the reader time to digest things and take their time over an answer.
All the best.