[rdgrad15]

Ever have a gut feeling someone is annoyed and you apologize, only for them to say there is no reason to apologize or ask why you are saying sorry? I was always under the assumption that if you have a gut feeling you are bugging someone, you probably are. So why is it some people won't accept a sincere apology? Apologizing is a considerate thing to do.

Another way to find out if someone is annoyed is that after they say they are not annoyed, either someone else will let you know or they will eventually admit it later on down the road. So why deny an apology or act confused? I've also had cases where the person I apologize to seems to get annoyed and the person actually gets mad for apologizing. I don't get it.

I am one of those people where if someone apologizes to me for bothering me, I will accept it. I won't make the person feel like crap, I'll appreciate them for recognizing their behavior, but at the same time I will be thankful for them realizing how their behavior is affecting me. So why do some people seem to get mad when you apologize when they are clearly showing signs of annoyance? Just wondered and it confuses me.

What do you guys do? Do you appreciate and accept the person's apology when someone apologizes or do you find it annoying? If you find it annoying, then why? Just curious. When someone gets mad, I assume they either find it annoying or reached a boiling point. But still not sure. Also why do some people decline an apology or say they are not bothered, the get mad and blow up behind your back or even to your face about it, after you had already apologized? Just confused.

[Angel_Davis]

I think when people are already annoyed they don't want to deal any more with that person.. I seem to annoy people a lot but I don't feel I need to apologize because I did nothing wrong. I am the way I am and if people don't like me, I just don't deal with them.

Well presentation is everything. Is the apology itself annoying? When the apology is made, is it acknowledging what it is for? Most of all, is the apology sincere?

If the apology is said just for the sake of it, because it is expected, or because it is going through the motions, there is no respect in that.

A good example of an honest, sincere apology is to acknowledge one's err or goof.

"Oh dear, am I rambling? I apologise for that."

[Trippin2.0]

If all you have to go on is a gut feeling, then maybe your gut is lying to you and that's why your apologies bounce back.

Also, I reject apologies if its repeat offenses, show me you're sorry don't say it and then do whatever it is you just apologized for again. And again and again. Rinse, wash repeat.

PS. If you're generally annoying I wouldn't be apologetic, its just you, people can either accept it or get lost.

[MickeyCheeky]

Well, if they say they weren't annoyed when they actually were, I think it's THEIR problem, you did the right thing by acknowledging that and apologizing that. If someone is repeatedly annoyed at you, also, not sure if you should spend time with that person. But that's just me.