Complicated situation, not sure how to deal with it

Hi,

Well lets start off saying I work in a big office, cubicle based etc. I have been working with this girl for about a year, no problem you know we kept it at a work relationship.

Now after the last Christmas vacation, things got a little odd. She gets in at work, we talk a bit bout the vacation, she says everything is ok but being with her everyday I could see something was wrong.

So when I told her something was bothering her she awknoledge but said it was too much and to talk about it but she really didnt know how to deal with it.
So after a while I told her listen you dont have to tell me but I think I know what happend. Basically at the new years party, one of the friend wished her happy new year while gently grabing her *** in the meantime. And she kinda liked it.

Now shes 32, been with her man for 11 years, 2 kids.

So I told her look, it was a party, if thats the only thing that happend, not a big deal, forget about it and go on. Problem is the men in question is her men friend, and they often do couple outing togheter. After that the guy was pushing her on facebook on howmuch he would like to have her naked with him etc.

So I kinda tried to steered on on the right path, I said just let him you dont like the way he talked to you, and if it dosnt stop well, tell your man.

So after that, a confidence relationship was kinda created, she would talk to me about how she would have bad evening at home, either her man wouldnt take care of her or he was too busy on the computer or on the phone etc.

I also came to know more about her, that she was more "sexy and dirty" then I taught at first, I started noticing how she dressed etc.

We got moved into a seperate office, same work but in a secluded office, we got nicknames flowing sometime, I would compliment her on her look.

We now talk on occasion on FB or snapchat on the evenings when her man is working.

Things got a little out of hand a night when she bought a Lace kit from Vic Secret. She showed me on the website which thats not a big deal.

One night she wanted to take pictures to send to her man so I said if you want a second opinion, shoot me a picture or two. And,, she did.

From that moment, it goes about the same at work, she was a little shy the next morning but I told her not to worry that she was beautiful and that I wouldnt talk back about it unless she brings it up.

Since that time I have some pretty strong feeling when shes around, I found myself bitting my lips somethimes if she comes too close etc.

We go out to lunch sometimes, the other day she had a ruff night, before she left the day after I took her in my arms, kissed her on the cheek and wished her a great evening.

Now tonight they had a supper with the other couple, she wanted to wear a nice dress, she snapped me a pic or 2 , this time i didnt ask.

I dont know if I actully falling in love, how to tell?
Why did she sent those pictures, i know she is shy, and I ask but i mean at the end she chose to send them.

Anyway, ever been in a similar situation ??

When playing with Fire it's common place to get burnt.

If she's willing to cheat on her " man" she's probably going cheat on you too.

Safe sex ! use a condom if you go down this sketchy road, wonder who else she's showing off her body too?

Good luck

Teetering on the brink of an affair with a married woman at work? Yes, I have.
Bang already and get it over with.

Lol, lefty, grounded and to the point as always.

I am tempted to agree, she cheated once so your probably good to go, why not. Just use protection, cos let's face it you don't know where she has been.
Oh and prepare yourself for any and all fallout if you get busted.
Enjoy.
P.s.
She isn't going to leave her husband.

All the best. Take care.

P.P.s, Karma is cold hearted btch. So remember this moment in 20 years when your wife comes home with something to tell you.

First of all , any man who messes with a married woman is a lowlife in my book.
I've seen this and have been the victim of a married woman's " not feeling good about something ". It's usually low self esteem or a marriage problem.
Now as a guy myself I can see the temptation and I usually can't really blame the guy.
I blame the woman for , at least a short period of time , becoming a *****. They find a million reasons to cry on some other guys shoulder and then it goes from there.
I'm sorry , but I'm old school on this. Take my advice , it's not going to be worth the trouble.
If your having problems with how to conduct yourself properly with females get help before you get yourself in trouble.
Just MHO.

Well, as per to her leaving her husband I know, probebly not going to happend, but what do you mean by she cheated once ? She never did anything with the guy, other the flirting here and there?

And trust me I know its not easy, and I also know that I am going to be the one feeling heartbroken once everything will have settled in.

Been in a extra-conjugal relationship once, lasted 10 months, that time however the guy knew and well he tolerated it. But at the end, I had to end it because I started to knew the men too well and starting feeling bad. You know that feeling when you say if i would be that guy i would like that..

Anyways life`s is complicated